You want to find a therapist. You want to make sure that the person you find will be a good fit and great to work with. You probably have some questions already. Here are some questions that I get asked a lot from potential clients – Check them out below and let me know if there is anything else that you’d like me to answer.
You can use the SCHEDULER HERE ON MY WEBSITE and find a time that works for you to chat. I will call you at the number you indicate at that given time and we’ll plan to talk about 20 minutes.
The short answer is – Yes, in general, the law protects your privacy in terms of communication between a client and therapist. If you want to share information with another professional, you will have to sign a written form of authorization. The long answer is this: There ARE exceptions to confidentiality and they can be found below. In these situations, authorization is NOT necessary for the therapist to disclose information.
– Disclosure of possible harm against self
– Disclosure of possible harm against another
– The suspicion of or proof of abuse and neglect of children or vulnerable adults
– Prenatal exposure to illegal drugs (such as heroin, cocaine, amphetamine) or excessive and/or habitual use of alcohol
– Disclosure about the misconduct of another professional (mental health or health care professionals included)
– Death of a client (therapist has the duty to provide the parent or the spouse access to the child’s or spouse’s records)
– Age of a client (parents of minor may request access to the child’s records. Specific questions in such cases may be discussed with the therapist as there are instances in which the client, though minor, may be able to request specific information to be withheld from his/her parents)
– Court order
Generally speaking, Danka will meet with individual clients once a week for a 50 minute session. Depending on each client’s specific circumstances, this may occasionally be altered as needed. Note that Danka uses a consistent scheduling approach in that she will give you the same time and day for your ongoing appointments. That means that unless otherwise indicated or discussed ahead of time, you will be meeting on the same day of the week at the same time each week, making it easy to plan ahead for you and for Danka.
For couples work, Danka sometimes sees clients on a weekly basis for one session (50 minutes) or, more often than not, on a biweekly basis for two sessions at a time (equivalent to 100 minute sessions).
Once you bring your completed initial intake forms – unless otherwise agreed upon between you and the therapist (AKA homework assignment, book or article etc.) – there is no need to bring anything else on a weekly basis. Should you need an extra dose of caffeine or herbal infusion before starting, Danka will have complimentary coffee and tea available for you once you arrive.
The truth is, the first and second sessions are sort of filled with information gathering. This is designed in a way that hopefully doesn’t feel extremely overwhelming and will be in the form of:
All of this is done with one hope and one goal only: to present information to Danka about you and your family so that she may be able to serve you in both the most productive and sensitive way possible. Knowing your strong points and your weak ones, understanding the history and the past, she will be able to assist you in managing and directing the future in a way that would be most healthy as well as personally and relationally satisfying. Danka looks at it more as a beginning of an authentic relationship. You can’t reach that without authentically presenting yourself and being with another. So, be patient. It’s important to allow time for this thing called process.
A surprising number of individuals and couples have posed this question to me before. When is it that couples should seek professional help? Especially when it comes to couples therapy, people seem to be a bit more perplexed as to the answer. Research shows that most couples wait too long before seeking therapy. While there are many ways of knowing – and you might already have arrived – below are some questions for you to consider. There is no order according to significance.
It would be safe to say that if you or your significant other positively answer to any one of these questions, it would most definitely be a worthwhile investment of your time and energy to at the least sit down together and have an honest conversation about what is going on. If either one of the partners answers positively to more than two of the questions below, outside perspective will likely be valuable and often necessary. You can have a good relationship. Whether you are married or not, if you are willing to work on it, you can even have a great one.
And, regardless of what happened in the past or what happens during the course of therapy, Danka will be the last person in the room to raise her hand and say: “I’m done”.
As cut and dry as this question may look to you, it is almost impossible to answer without starting with the usual: It depends. It depends on who you are and what you need. It depends on whether you are an individual, family or a couple. For premarital counseling, our relationship might last 5-7 sessions. If you are an individual client, a couple or a family, there are hundreds of variables.
Depending on what you walk in with and what you might want to walk out with, how skills-based and goal-oriented you might be, how deep or surface-layered your hopes and expectations are, you might be looking at anything from a few months of therapy to a year or more – and everything in between. Bottom line, you and Danka will discuss this openly at the start of your sessions together and will revisit the topic periodically throughout your therapeutic relationship, allowing the possibility for alterations to the initial goals as needed.
Finding a Marriage Therapist might seem like a daunting task. If there are questions that you didn’t get answered, please comment below, and I will add them to the list when appropriate.
My goal for you is to find a therapist that you will be happy with, one that will help get your relationship to a better place. If I can be helpful in any other way, let me know.