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Couples Counseling – FAQs

 

Where is your office located?


My office is located just south of Minneapolis in Edina — right off of Highway 100 and Industrial Blvd/77th Street. The actual address is:

5100 Edina Industrial Blvd, Suite 232

Edina, MN 55439

For driving directions, photos of the building and instructions once you get inside, visit my website HERE.

 

 

Do you have evening hours?


Yes. However, evening hours are the prime real estate — high in demand and limited in numbers. A lot of the couples I work with are able to make daytime appointments work. They come during their lunch break or they are able to adjust their schedule to leave a little bit early to accommodate a 3pm or a 4pm slot. If evening slots are the only time that you and your spouse are able to accommodate, ask me about availability at the end of your initial phone consultation.

 

 

How do I set up my initial phone consultation?


To find a time that works for you and I to talk, please use the ONLINE SCHEDULING HERE. I will call you at the number you provided in the form and the given time. The initial phone consultation is about 30 min in length, just so you know how to plan. IF none of the times available work, please reach out to me and we’ll find a time that works.

 

 

How long is the Initial Phone Consultation? 


The initial phone consultation is about 30 minutes in length. If you are interested in speaking with me and ready to schedule one now, you can do so HERE.

 

 

Do we both need to  be on the call at the same time during the initial phone consultation?


No – I like to speak with both you and your spouse separately first so you will each need to find your own slot to speak with me.

 

 

How long are your sessions and what is their frequency?


The sessions are 50 min in length. I meet with couples once a week, at the same time every week (same day, same time) so that you can schedule your social obligations easily around that. So we’ll find a day and a time that works on an ongoing basis and stick to that – for example, Wednesdays at noon.

 

Do you take insurance? Why – or why not?


Because of the complexity of this question, I dedicated a whole separate page on my website to answering it in detail. To read what you need to know about insurance and marriage counseling, please visit my INSURANCE PAGE HERE.

 

 

How long does couples therapy usually take?


I initially contract with couples for a minimum of six months — knowing that couples therapy is not a what you would call a 2-3 week fix. And if that’s what you are looking for, then I am not the therapist you are looking for. I remind couples all the time that if you have been working on your “dysfunction” for years, decades even, to have the expectation that we will have all that taken care of and you will be in and out in that short of a period of time is just plain unrealistic. Don’t expect to walk into the forest in ten minutes and come out in five.

 

In other words, for the time that you have been together  – that may be two years, twelve or twenty two – you have been perfecting these ways that you are finding do not work and are not giving you what you were hoping for. To expect that you can come in, get “fixed” and get on your way within a month or two is just plain unreasonable in my book. Truth be told, it’s going to take some time – to uncover what those things are, why they don’t work, what you can do differently and get you on your way to using these new strategies.

 

Something that stuck with me since graduate school: I am in the business of putting myself out of business. And if I am not doing that, I am not doing my job well. I want you to come to therapy, I want you to do the work you need to do, get the help that you need. Then I want you to leave my office one day, because you will graduate one day, and be able to do this marriage thing successfully on your own for years to come.

 

And as far as overall length of treatment, I have had couples who got everything accomplished in 6 months, and couples whom I have seen for 2-3 years and everything in between.

 

 

What is your cancellation policy?


Once we have agreed on your appointment slot, I ask that couples let me know 48 hours in advance if they are unable to come. If possible, we will make other arrangements and reschedule within the same week. We will discuss emergency cancelations in person.

The same 48 hour cancellation policy goes for initial in-person appointments in my office. If you fail to notify me and no-show, you will lose the opportunity of working with me.

 

 

Do you work with unmarried couples?


Absolutely. If you are two people in a long-term committed relationship – whether you are dating, engaged, living together, married or dating again, relationship issues apply for you. And so does relationship counseling.

 

 

I am married but my spouse doesn’t want to come. Do you see people like me alone, even if it’s for relationship help?


Definitely. And if you are wondering whether you can make an impact alone – You absolutely can. While ideally we would have both of you in the room, I wholeheartedly believe that even if just one of you comes in and puts in the effort and energy to improve your marriage, it will show. No doubt about it.

So yes, even if you are –what I call– a lone soldier, as long as you want to do something about your relationship, your relationship can and will improve. So yes, call me crazy – I believe that you can single-handedly take a stab at it, and your marriage will benefit from it. I have yet to see anyone prove me wrong on this one.

 

Are you married? Here’s why I am asking: Do you believe in marriage? We had a counselor once who was divorced and said out right to us that she, in fact, did NOT believe in marriage – that is not what we are looking for. 

First – your question about me being married – Yes, my husband and I have been married for over a decade.

And as far as believing in marriage – Absolutely I do. I don’t think that I could do the work that I am doing and see the change in the couples in my office if I didn’t believe that. I don’t think it’s my job to tell anyone whether they should have gotten married, whether they should get a divorce – it IS my job to help you with your marriage if that’s what you are looking to do. It goes back to my WHY – you can watch the video HERE. I talk about why I believe in therapy and the ways that it’s like you taking your car to the mechanic. (Say WHAT? – Yeah – Check it out)

 

 

Is marriage/couples counseling confidential?


The short answer is – Yes, in general, the law protects your privacy in terms of communication between a client and therapist. If you want to share information with another professional, you will have to sign a written form of authorization. The long answer is this: There ARE exceptions to confidentiality and they can be found below. In these situations, authorization is NOT necessary for the therapist to disclose information.

 

– Disclosure of possible harm against self

Disclosure of possible harm against another

The suspicion of or proof of abuse and neglect of children or vulnerable adults

– Prenatal exposure to illegal drugs (such as heroin, cocaine, amphetamine) or excessive and/or habitual use of alcohol

Disclosure about the misconduct of another professional (mental health or health care professionals included)

– Death of a client (therapist has the duty to provide the parent or the spouse access to the child’s or spouse’s records)

– Age of a client (parents of minor may request access to the child’s records. Specific questions in such cases may be discussed with the therapist as there are instances in which the client, though minor, may be able to request specific information to be withheld from his/her parents)

– Court order

 

 

Why do you have snacks in your waiting room?

Because I believe that nothing great was ever accomplished when one is hungry.

 

 

 

And lastly – Guess what?

You two can have a good relationship. Whether you are married or not, whether you’ve been together five odd years or a decade or two, if you are willing to work on it, you can even have a great relationship in the end.

And, regardless of what happened in the past or what happens during the course of therapy, I will be the last person in the room to raise my hand and say: “I’m done”.

Because it’s all too important.

 

 

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