Bogott Counseling: The Why
I believe in family.
I also believe that at the heart of a healthy family is the couple. Investing in your marriage is invaluable to your children as well as your spouse and will guarantee you more return on investment than any car or home you’ll ever buy. Being proactive in our relationships is the baseline of wellness.
I believe in marriage.
Sadly, divorce is still spreading like wildfire. Whether we admit it or not, it’s happening all around our neighborhoods, faith-based and non-faith-based alike. In my personal and professional life, I come across many couples resorting to divorce without seeing that their marriage has a fighting chance and without ever realizing that their marriage is undoubtedly worth fighting for.
I believe in therapy.
I have had one too many couples over the last few years tell me that when seeking help for their relationship from a counselor (or two, or three), instead of marriage counseling they were told to just get a divorce. Frankly, that leaves me speechless at best and outraged at worst.
If you went to the mechanic because your headlights were out, and they told you that you might as well have it towed to the closest junkyard, you, too, would be irate, I hope. And perhaps it’s not your headlights – maybe it’s the engine, or the brakes, or the steering wheel. Either way, if that’s what you want done, you should be able to get that fixed. Isn’t that precisely why you are bringing your car into the shop?
When two people come together with the goal of wanting to resurrect their marriage, I don’t care how messy it might seem to them or to the world. Perhaps their marriage has been on life support for months, years even. Perhaps they want to just move it from good to great. In any case, I – as the therapist – am the last person to stand in their way. I have seen repair happen. And from where I stand, it’s always been an incredible view.