We don’t teach children how to swim in the middle of a storm. We teach them when the water is calm so they’ll know what to do when it isn’t. Think about that for a moment. We don’t wait until our children are drowning to decide that perhaps swimming lessons would be a […]
How Can You Feel So Alone When You’re Married? One of the things I hear from married couples is some version of this: “My husband is a good man. He works hard. He’s a good father. He helps around the house. He tells me he loves me. But I feel completely alone.” […]
You don’t find time for your marriage. You make it. And sometimes that means deciding what you’re going to stop doing. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard someone say, “We just don’t have time.” No time for date nights. No time to sit down and talk. No time to spend together without […]
Stress is part of life. Sometimes it’s a difficult project at work. Sometimes it’s financial pressure, health problems, aging parents, or raising children who need an enormous amount of your attention. And sometimes it’s all of those things at once. I don’t know anybody who gets through life without experiencing stress. But here’s […]
Is it selfish to put your own needs before your spouse’s? How much alone time is healthy in a marriage? And what are you supposed to do when you and your spouse need completely different things? These are questions I hear from married couples all the time. And here’s what I want you […]
You’re Both Doing So Much. So Why Do You Both Feel Unappreciated? I have couples come into my office all the time who feel completely unseen in their marriage. Not necessarily unseen as human beings. Unseen in their efforts. Their contributions. The hundreds of things they do every week to keep their […]
After nearly 15 years of working with married couples, I’ve become convinced of something: Some of the most damaging things in a marriage are the conversations that never happened. Not necessarily the big fights. Not the arguments where somebody raises their voice. I’m talking about the little disappointments. The comments that didn’t sit […]
If you’ve ever said, “We’ve had this conversation before,” you’re not alone. I cannot tell you how many couples sit in my office and say some version of this: “It’s always the same fight.” “It’s like we’re on repeat.” “We never actually resolve it.” They can practically script the conversation from memory. One […]
Relationship Satisfaction: What Does It Actually Mean to You and Your Partner? If I asked you, right now, “Are you satisfied in your relationship?” you’d probably have an answer. But if I asked your spouse the same question… would their answer match yours? This is where things get interesting. In my work with couples, I’ve learned something that surprises […]
Don’t Be Lazy in Marriage Don’t be a generalist. Wait—what? What does that mean? Don’t be a generalist when you say thank you. Don’t say, “Thank you for everything that you do.” This is 2026. We can be specific. “You’re such a great mom.” How? Tell me how I am a […]
