I came across that headline the other day when searching for something completely unrelated.
I couldn’t stop but think – is that really a question that we need to be asking ourselves? Doesn’t every young heart know that it happened when it skipped a beat one too many times in a day? Doesn’t every body recognize the signs? Your face turns red, your palms start getting sweaty, butterflies in your stomach – all before the person of interest even had a chance to turn around and lay eyes on you.
We all know once we are in love that we are in love. We know the signs. There is no question about it.
And the list goes on and on, right? Going back to my original question, though – is that really the question we should be asking ourselves?
Shouldn’t we instead be asking, how do you know that you love him/her?
Isn’t THAT the part that truly matters in life?
How do you know that you successfully moved from that ‘in love’ phase to the ‘I love you’ phase? The cycle of falling in love and falling out of love happens several times in a lifetime for most people. The in-love phase most often is rather short-lived and cannot sustain a long-term relationship. If you have been in a long-term relationship with someone, or have been married more than a day, you know I’m right.
Saying ‘I love you’ means knowing the truth and despite it all, deciding to stay. It means I love you now and I will never stop loving you. It means making a conscious decision to keep showing up. If that’s not what “I love you” means, I don’t know what does.