This post is for you IF you are FRUSTRATED that your Spouse isn’t recovering FAST ENOUGH AFTER INFIDELITY. My Red Light/Green Light Experience As I was driving to the office this morning, at one of the intersections, I got stopped at a red light. I was the first one in line […]
This MIGHT just be THE MOST unrecognized BREAKER OF TRUST. Did you know this? You are not who you say are. You are not what you say you’re going to do but never ACTUALLY do. Soooo… The million dollar question is: Are YOU doing this? Meaning: Where you’re saying you’re gonna SAY something, […]
Know Your Impact — First, Story Time With the first snow of the season landing on our lawn, I was reminded of this particular night last winter. We had just spent two weeks at a beach with the whole entire extended family. We were coming back, the flight was a little delayed. […]
I don’t know how we didn’t notice the progress being done. One day, we came back from church, and it was all completed. It’s not like the birds decided to do it in the back of the house somewhere we never go. They built it right here, on top of a light, right […]
Even when, or ESPECIALLY when… Your husband, your wife approaches you with a request, you have GOT to remember this one thing. That’s ALL that it is. A request. YOU (and I) get to decide what to do with it. And this isn’t me saying – don’t listen to your spouse. Don’t take […]
On Vulnerability in Marriage – that’s what we are talking about today. I don’t know who needs to hear this but I JUST reminded a couple of this truth this morning. There’s a lot of talk about vulnerability. And intimacy. And how we all – supposedly – want that in our relationships. Including […]
This will happen in your marriage when you work with me. You will be able to talk about money & sex in a way you never knew before. Being open about where you are now. Being honest and open about where you have been (sometimes it is useful to look at what us […]
So, you tell me you don’t have one. One hour each week to come in to meet with me for a session. Seriously. I do want to question that — For your sake, not mine. [Yes, I see my couples once a week.] Listen to what you are saying. Just for a second. […]
We rarely talk about this. But it needs to be talked about. Because, in your marriage as much as anywhere else in your life, your capacity to suck is what propels you forward (Or keeps you stuck in one place.) How do you mean? Great question – I would love to tell you. […]
What I hear – Both Stubborn – Your Story So, you tell me that you are both stubborn. It usually comes up right after you say that you are SO very different. (No need to go back to that – I already wrote about that here.) The very first time we talk on the […]
