The number of times that people tell me – or I overhear them telling someone else without them realizing – that they don’t have the money to invest in their marriage – Too many. I stopped counting. If you are sitting there, thinking to yourself – yeah – but it’s true — Here’s […]
Nobody cleans during a tornado. You don’t either. Of course you DON’T. Nobody does. What’s this talk of tornadoes, you ask — Let me explain. Why Nobody Cleans During a Tornado YOU CANNOT clean during a tornado. We all know this, right? You are collecting all the humans (and pets) you […]
You know that saying, right? You can’t compare that — That’s like apples and oranges, they are totally different? We use it all over the place. Well, today, I’m finding myself needing to talk about it – or use this saying – in a way I don’t know that I ever have. It […]
Sometimes I remind THEM. My clients, that is. Sometimes THEY remind ME – OR they remind EACH OTHER in front of ME. It happened again two days ago. The intensity with which he said it: “I know – It’s supposed to be this way.” Though – And this is the tricky piece – […]
Many people will finally take a hold of themselves and initiate healthier living, eating and more moving around when they realize something. This one particular ‘something’. That they only got this one God-given body. Just one. That’s all we get. For life. There are no spares, like we have in the back of […]
These are the three rules that I’d advise you adopt in your marriage, whether you work with me or not. They are non-negotiable in my office – Once I start working with my couples, we discuss these right away. Session one, literally. My Three Rules for Our Work Together- Rule # 1 […]
Best of May’s Marriage Advice – On HONESTY Let me ask you something. How real have you been with your spouse about what’s going on between you two? And I don’t mean- how many times you said a thing or two, or much how much of the neighborhood heard about it also- […]
The Question You Ask and Why I don’t Answer So, you ask me this one question. Pretty frequently. And I don’t answer it – On purpose. What question is that? What do you charge? Or some version thereof. How much does it cost to work with you? How much are your packages? […]
You don’t NEED to hire me. Here’s why you might WANT to. Mary sent me this months after we’ve initially spoken on the phone. (And Mary isn’t the only one who’s sent such an email.) “We didn’t prioritize this. However, the question you asked me when we first spoke continues to stick out […]
There is a difference between fighting to surrender, and fighting to win. Reality Check — Not all of my couples make it. Sometimes they come, when they should have come months or years ago. Other times, they come because they want to be able to say – “We have done it ALL. There […]
