This post is for you IF you are FRUSTRATED that your Spouse isn’t recovering FAST ENOUGH AFTER INFIDELITY. My Red Light/Green Light Experience As I was driving to the office this morning, at one of the intersections, I got stopped at a red light. I was the first one in line […]
This MIGHT just be THE MOST unrecognized BREAKER OF TRUST. Did you know this? You are not who you say are. You are not what you say you’re going to do but never ACTUALLY do. Soooo… The million dollar question is: Are YOU doing this? Meaning: Where you’re saying you’re gonna SAY something, […]
Know Your Impact — First, Story Time With the first snow of the season landing on our lawn, I was reminded of this particular night last winter. We had just spent two weeks at a beach with the whole entire extended family. We were coming back, the flight was a little delayed. […]
How to Recover Best – First, The Question “My husband said something hurtful to me, and I have a hard time with it. Sometimes I won’t think about it, other times it’s all I can think about. He has apologized and said that he didn’t mean it. I always tell him then […]
These are the three rules that I’d advise you adopt in your marriage, whether you work with me or not. They are non-negotiable in my office – Once I start working with my couples, we discuss these right away. Session one, literally. My Three Rules for Our Work Together- Rule # 1 […]
Turns out I have a co-conspirator at the Minnesota Department of Transportation. Who knew? As a driver, I have a bunch of habits that (sometimes) my kids laugh at – like talking to other drivers while I’m on the road. But nothing irks me more than when people don’t use blinkers. I’m fine […]
Best of May’s Marriage Advice – On HONESTY Let me ask you something. How real have you been with your spouse about what’s going on between you two? And I don’t mean- how many times you said a thing or two, or much how much of the neighborhood heard about it also- […]
How to RECOVER in your marriage from a relational micro-mishap at RAPID SPEED Some of you call them hiccups. Yes, those. Say these words out loud: “Hey, I don’t want to hold this over my head (or yours) all day long, can I just run it by you real quick? Assuming that your […]
This is a letter from me to you, with love. There’s no denying it. The numbers don’t lie. Picture this: It’s Friday night & you are at a dinner party. Six couples total present. Hear this. Every other couple in the room will end up in divorce. Every other couple around the table […]
Having done this for so long – in my mind, everybody knows. But then I run into someone, this week it was this older couple who had absolutely no idea. And of course, I’m the one who gets to point this out to them. Because staying in the not knowing – in the […]
