Today, I have to talk about something so that you understand.
When I first left academia and the Hispanic Literature world, to start the program and get my Marriage and Family Therapy degree to be able to work with couples – it was a response of sorts.
I had just come to realize that this idea that divorce only affected certain couples, that other couples were immune to it was absolute nonsense.
Believe it or not, growing up for the longest time, I had believed – having seen no divorce in my surroundings – that some couples had built up immunity.
If their parents didn’t get a divorce, they would also stay together.
If they never fought.
If they grew up in the right kind of circumstances with the right kinds of examples in their lives, they wouldn’t get a divorce.
If they were Christians or pastors, or pastors’ children, or had a strong, life-long faith background, they would stay together.
Then it happened & I saw for the very first time that NONE of this had anything to do with it.
I got a front-row seat.
And it wasn’t pretty.
I also got to see that divorce wasn’t picky.
That it didn’t discriminate.
That none of that – what I believed – was a deciding factor.
Then I saw it again. And again.
So I decided I had to do something about it – Insert years in graduate school, practicum, starting my practice, specializing in couples work.
What does any of that have to do with anything, you ask.
We are at a time in history where marriages are at risk.
And for me, those are not just words released into thin air.
We’re talking actual risk.
Not that they weren’t before, but now the threat to marriages and families certainly is at an all time high, or a new kind of high, heightened by the additional stresses surrounding us everywhere.
Being confined to living inside of the walls of your house.
Having to do ALL the things (that you normally do).
And then all the EXTRA things on top of that (that someone else normally does, the teaching, the musical instrument instructing, the cooking, the cleaning, the – you get the picture).
All the things that were an issue for couples before, now those have been elevated to a whole new level because we are all stuck together, all the time.
Having gotten worse in many cases as a result.
This pandemic didn’t necessarily bring on new issues for all the couples out there.
What it did do is this – it served as a magnifying glass of sorts – where the problems couples were facing before now just got more pronounced, more real.
More in their faces.
With no possibility of escape.
Day in, day out, I am hearing this from my clients & from the couples in my group:
“It’s hard to come up with things to do. With all the things on our plates, we don’t have the bandwidth to be original with our alone time. Who has time for that? You kidding?”
And then this:
“We know we should be connecting, we don’t want to drop the ball on all the work we’ve done already, but how do we do that? How do we make it happen when none of the things are available to us? When we can’t do anything…or so it feels.”
Whatever happens, I want you and every couple in my practice and every couple I know to still – OR ESPECIALLY NOW – be able to come out at the end of this, feeling closer together with their partner and not falling apart.
I want for couples to fare well throughout this time.
So that you don’t ever have think about contacting that divorce attorney when this is all over with.
Which is why I did this.
Why I created this online couples challenge to make sure that couples knew what to do, didn’t have to think about it, and were able to come out on the other side, unscathed.
Here’s what my ask is:
If you are a couple, check it out for yourselves –You won’t regret it.
You know a couple? Tell them about it — They will be grateful.
If you love a couple, share this with them — They’ll love you for it.
21 Days.
21 Emails.
21 Ways to Connect as a Couple & Win. Together.
And guess what?
It’s Pandemic-proof & Social Distancing-Friendly.
This matters.
It matters a ton.
Because no matter what they say, divorce sucks and marriages & families need to be protected.
And I wanted to help.
So, here it is again:
The 21 Day Couples Reconnect Challenge.
Make it Yours Today.
Or share it with someone you love.
It’ll make sense why me and why this work.
