No, don’t worry.
You’re not a unicorn.
I mean – you aren’t the only one who has been asked by their spouse to open up to them in more ways than one.
To up your emotional intimacy game.
Maybe you’ve been there, thinking to yourself – I do the best I can.
I talk.
I share.
And still, some days it seems like it’s not enough.
Well, you’re in luck.
Here are some tactical/practical ways to share more with your spouse.
Ways to start a conversation with your wife or your husband on just an ordinary Wednesday like today. And it goes a little beyond just starting the conversation.
It also shows that you are thinking about things, that you want to share those things and – most importantly perhaps – that those things involve them in one way or another.
NUMBER ONE
You know what occurred to me this morning while I was picking up the living room?
That one of the reasons I really like to hang out with you is….
(Your ability to get excited and really be present when we do fun things together, your attention to detail – fill in whatever applies to your honey…)
NUMBER TWO
I realized as I was eating lunch by myself, that it would be so much more fun to do lunches together – just you and me.
I did make me a good one today – Do you think we might be able to pull lit off?
Once every couple weeks?
Once a week?
What day is best for you?
NUMBER THREE
You won’t believe what happened at Target today.
I saw this guy there this afternoon, he looked like he needed some more coffee.
Like, really – all the signs of exhaustion times ten.
I remembered how you and I used to stay up so late when we were younger and we would still rock it the next day.
Remember that one time when we didn’t realize we ran out of coffee and it was the wrong day to run out of coffee?
And we drove ourselves to Starbucks to even be able to get behind the wheel?
This guys looked the part.
One hundred percent.
Like he just had triplets a week ago, poor thing.
Do you remember those days?
NUMBER FOUR
I heard something on the radio today about ______ (topic that caught your attention).
Here is what they said.
Share what it was.
Here’s what totally caught my attention and I was wondering if you had heard that.
OR – if you had any opinions/takes on the topic…
Here’s what came to my mind immediately.
I’ve been wanting to talk to you about it ever since I heard it.
NUMBER FIVE
You know what I learned about myself today?
You won’t ever be able to guess even – it’s SO good.
Let me just tell you….
NUMBER SIX
As I was thinking through what to make for lunch/dinners/prep in terms of food – something made me think of that one dish that you used to devour and love when we first got together.
What do you say we make one of those this week?
Are there other things that we haven’t had in a while?
Also – I’d love to make a meal together, too.
What night is best?
NUMBER SEVEN
You know what I think about almost every day… after you leave?
That I am SO incredibly grateful for the hardworking man that you are.
That you get up, you show up, you do the work, you keep showing up, you keep rocking it at work – I’m so glad that I found myself a man like you, who I don’t have to push out the door every day.
Have I ever told you this?
I love that you motivate yourself (yeah, sometimes too much even :)).
Love that you have taken care of this family so well, for so many years.
I don’t take that for granted.
Really, I don’t.
Just know that I see it.
Know that I see you.
Working hard, loving me by working so hard, loving our family, providing so well for all of us, to allow us to do these things (fill in specifics if you want), making memories together to last us for years.
NUMBER EIGHT
Hey, remember that conversation that we had at Danka’s office a few weeks back?
Here’s something that I was reminded of today – and I just wanted to share it with you.
NUMBER NINE
They were doing this thing in this movie/tv show today, and I thought I can replicate it with you:
It was called 10 reasons I know I married an incredible man (and then list 10 reasons why)
NUMBER TEN
Hey, you know that song that they play on the radio?
That one that the kids really like?
This is what spoke to me in particular today – it hit me in a way that I didn’t see coming.
And I am so grateful.
NUMBER ELEVEN
You know how you tell me you want me to do things outside of the house?
A friend of mine (the neighbor…) sent me something today that looks really, really amazing – I would love to show you after dinner and see if you think that might work over the next month or so.
NUMBER TWELVE
You know how you always say – I want to know what you are thinking?
I want to know what’s been on your mind?
Here’s what I was thinking about:
I am reading this book – and I actually think we should read it together – but let me tell you about the last part of it that I read just earlier this morning…
NUMBER THIRTEEN
You know what I miss?
I don’t even know what made me think of it today – BUT I missed you today.
Or, I miss doing an activity with you – was wondering if I could schedule for us to do that when you are off of work next week?
BONUS
It’s Tuesday tomorrow – can I make a reservation for us somewhere so we can eat/go to concert/go walk around the lake together?
There you go. Fourteen ways to start sharing more with your spouse that you can take and run with.
Start implementing tomorrow.
Hope this sparks your imagination enough and allows you all to come up with a few of your own.
Maybe you already have.
It’s not as hard as it seems.
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