They said a professor shared this with them in college and it stuck.
I know how that works because I have some of those in my own repertoire.
Things I remember people saying to me decades ago.
I love these little truth bombs. So. Much.
Particularly when they come from the couples I work with.
“No romantic relationship survives without both partners having other friends to support them”
Who is that person for you?
Do you have one?
OR – do you need to go out and find one today…?
I couldn’t agree with this more.
I can’t tell you how many times I shared the reality that this is — That my husband – as great as he is – isn’t all that.
Nor do I want him to be.
I talk about that in detail here if you haven’t seen it yet.
We all need the tribe.
We all need to have the people in our lives that have roles that our spouse can’t fill.
Now, it doesn’t have to be a humongous circle.
But there needs to be one there.
So – if you don’t have one – Get to working on this.
It might mean reconnecting with a friend you haven’t spoken to in years.
It might mean going out there on purpose and making a new friend.
Or you might get in touch with that cousin or neighbor that you used to have amazing interaction with years back, and somehow they fizzled out.
“Nothing is stronger than a habit. Not even love.”
I wonder what comes up for you when you read that.
Would you agree?
Disagree?
Does it ring true?
So much of what I do – for myself and my relationship with my husband and for my couples – those I see in my office and those I interact with on all sorts of other levels –
I help them get their priorities reset.
I help get those habits back in place that they had going on like a well oiled machine but, over time, for one of a million different reasons, let go of.
Things that either just took too much effort, or required more time, or both.
Life happens.
I get it.
It happens to me too.
But the thing about that is this: Life will keep happening – whether we are paying attention or not.
Whether we are looking at what’s starting to drop off the routine – no matter how much it served us in the past.
Or how much proof we have.
I fall off the wagon too.
Something will interrupt my rhythm.
The last one – it was a last minute trip overseas.
The stress and busyness of packing (for three – though not all three of us were going overseas), getting all my ducks lined up at work, finishing all the final touches for notes and emails and Out of Office responses – the whole nine yards.
And then jetlag, working on other things while I’m traveling.
Creating new content but not really having the time or the space or the energy.
It starts with just one day – but all of a sudden, I notice – it’s been three weeks.
I forget to keep up with my walks.
Keep with my mind work.
Keep with my quiet time.
Forget to ask for what I need.
And then things, one thing after the next – little bombs keep going off – and I start seeing the negative outcomes I don’t want.
I get irritated, I lose it with my girls or my husband, I don’t sleep enough – I notice the weight of the resentment piling up.
So I get back on the train.
That’s all I ask you to do as well.
You want to get back on that train with me?
Whether it’s with things that you are doing and need for your personal well-being and health, or your relationship’s. Or your family’s.
Or all of the above.
Let’s do it.
You aren’t the only one that’s gonna benefit.
It’s all great for your relationship.
Win, win.
