So, you tell me that you are both stubborn.
It usually comes up right after you say that you are SO very different.
(No need to go back to that – I already wrote about that here.)
The very first time we talk on the phone – this comes up for most of you.
As something that’s getting in the way.
Something that’s stopping you both from getting to this place that you’d want to be.
Quite frankly, it’s always a bit confusing to me.
You say it like it’s this great old rock that gets in the way.
As if there was nothing you could do about it.
As if there was no way to get past the stubborn.
What if that wasn’t a problem?
Let me ask it this way – What if there was a way you could double down on your ‘stubborn’ and use it for your benefit?
How about we switch it up – what if there was a way that you could actually maximize your stubborn and use it to help you get where you want to go, but faster?
Stubborn equals determination.
Google even agrees with me on that one in their definition: “Having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so.”
We just need to decide what we are determined to do.
What you’re going to be stubborn about.
Together.
Right?
What if you used your stubborn natures – yes, both of yours – and decided that no matter what, we are going to figure this out?
What if you could make a bold move to say – we are getting there, no matter what?
Because we are stubborn.
As in, we ain’t stopping until it’s done.
Because we don’t let go of our desires or our goals fast.
Or never, really.
That’s not who we are.
What if you used it as fuel to drive you both towards a better marriage?
As in – come hell or high water – we are gonna figure this out.
You, me – in a good place.
There is no chance that this isn’t happening.
Let’s be stubborn about that.
Use that to your advantage.
If we can use it to help accelerate your progress, all of a sudden – it stops being a problem.
It starts bringing a win.
And if you keep being stubborn about it, that place you want go get to – the ‘us in a good place’ place – it becomes inevitable.
