My husband Jon and I – we didn’t explicitly have an agreement about this.
Or a huge discussion on the topic that I can remember.
One that led to us signing a document of some sort at the end of that meeting.
But – Without needing to say it out loud, it was very much understood.
I love it even more when couples actually put it on the table.
Maybe you did this too.
I came across this a few days back someplace on social media and wanted to share.
Something like this:
“My wife and I made a decision when we got married 27 years ago that we would never mention divorce.
Use the word divorce.
Joke about it.
It’s never – it’s not an option for us.
I have friends who in mixed company would say – Yeah, my wife would divorce me if I did this.
My wife, we don’t make those jokes.
Because we know that’s not an option for us.
We burned the ships.
That option is not on the table for us.
So when we have fights – which we do like every other couple – when we get upset with each other, we make sure that is not an option.
We gotta make this work.
We’re ride or die.
Even above the kids.
The kids know they’re second in this whole thing.
The kids are the kids biologically.
But the decision I made is with her.
And she is number one.
100%.
So, we burned the ships.”
The decision I made is with HER.
The decision I made is with HIM.
Whether you did or did not do this right at the start of your relationship – this can still be done.
It’s not too late.
More importantly, it’s not too late even if you’ve never before talked about burning the ships.
You two can make an agreement and adopt this, today.
No need to wait for better days.
Burning the ships is available to you where you are right now.
Both the concept AND the reality of it.
(Thank you, @therealbradlea)
