You know why your spouse cringes every time the words “constructive criticism” comes out of your mouth?
Because.
Those two words don’t belong in your marriage.
Keep them where they belong:
A job interview
A performance review.
Your employee handbook even.
Or whatever else.
Most couples I know – and I have spoken to a few over the years – and know a few more on top of that – don’t ask their spouse for feedback in order to “help promote further development or advancement”.
Makes sense, right?
A work relationship.
That’s where this belongs.
This – what you and your spouse have – is not that.
As we enter this ever-so-overly-scheduled season of the year, here’s my question for you:
Do you dare make a change this year?
What do you mean, Danka?
This:
What are you two going to say “NO” to?
On purpose.
Thoughtfully.
And holding each other to it.
You do know it’s available to you, right?
Just like its lovely counterpart? (the one that starts with a Y and ends with ES?)
You know that you can do that, say ‘no’ that is?
You don’t have to participate in all the school things.
All your kids’ friends’ things.
Do all the work parties.
Go to all the games, or the practices, or meets…
All the church things.
The family things – the ones that you feel obligated to attend with those people whose first name you barely remember? Yes, those.
All the neighborhood things…
You can say no to some of those things.
That it’s possible?
Doable even?
And more importantly, allowed….?
We’re on the same page.
Agreed?
Alright, now that we got that out of the way –
What is it gonna be?
Get each other on board, and make that decision today.
Or better yet – Agree to make that decision once a week.
Between now and the end of the year.
Together.
On purpose.
The you, the 2023 January you, will be grateful.
I know it.
And so do you.
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