On Vulnerability in Marriage – that’s what we are talking about today.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but I JUST reminded a couple of this truth this morning.
There’s a lot of talk about vulnerability.
And intimacy.
And how we all – supposedly – want that in our relationships.
Including the one that was marked by walking with that one person down the aisle while usually pronouncing their new last name.
At the micro-level, this is how I see it showing up.
It’s you being able to say to your spouse:
“I don’t know how to help you in this moment. What can I do?”
“This is really hard for me.”
“I need more time to think about it.”
“You know what? I am really sad.”
“I don’t want to go to that.”
“Did you know that when you say that it’s hurtful to me?”
“I don’t have this figured out yet.”
“I messed up – I am sorry.”
These are ALL ways of showing up with vulnerability.
You saying these things – and other things like it – is what creates intimacy.
Rest assured – these are not ALL the things – there are hundreds more.
But they are what creates closeness.
Showing up to your interactions, to your conversations with the other person with our willingness to own our truth, our pain, our humanity.
Taking the façade off.
And sharing what’s underneath.
I dare you to try it today.
