Many people will finally take a hold of themselves and initiate healthier living, eating and more moving around when they realize something.
This one particular ‘something’.
That they only got this one God-given body.
Just one.
That’s all we get.
For life.
There are no spares, like we have in the back of most of our cars, ready and available for that flat tire situation.
There are no stores to go find a replacement when the internal organs stop functioning the way they were designed to.
No arms and legs to pick at a convenience store.
Just one body, for this whole lifetime of ours.
And they will do the thing that, once upon a time, may have seemed impossible.
You may know someone who went through it just like that.
Where they will do the things that they swore they were never gonna day – because it was too hard, it hurt too much, or took too much effort, or the weights got too expensive during Covid – All the things.
When they realize they only have this one body – when that lands in a really particular and deep way –
They are, and have been since, willing and able to do those hard things, EVEN THOUGH
– it seemed impossible at one point
– it still required a lot of effort
– the weights got heavy or expensive
– the gym membership fees was still there just like it’s always been
– their body was in pain after a directed workout with a trainer
They did all of that, still.
Because they decided that they wanted to treat this one God-given gift in a way that was worthy.
So they change their ways.
They stop coming up with -or believing – their excuses.
They just get to work.
And by changing their ways, they change their lives.
Now, before I lose you and you start wondering, did Danka become a weight loss coach and I didn’t notice?
No need to worry – But I’ll tell you why I’m talking about this:
Many of my couples will respond and make a turn in the right direction (sometimes, the opposite direction) after they’ve had a similar realization about their marriage.
And from that place, they stop coming up with excuses.
Believing those excuses.
They start showing up differently.
They start putting way more than just minimal effort into their marriage.
They discover this newfound willingness to put other things on the backburner and pay attention to their spouse.
They begin prioritizing their time differently.
They re-evaluate how and where their efforts have been spent.
Make the changes necessary.
Own their part in the game.
Redirect their energy where it needs to be more of the time.
They are ready to put aside their pride.
All these things, they are willing to do because that one thing sinks in.
WE aren’t going for the divorce route.
That’s clear – we agree on that, so –
This marriage, this is it.
It’s precious – is what it is.
And we are here to make it better.
Because of that.
And it’s for us.
From that place, they change their marriage ways.
And by changing their marriage ways, they change their marriage lives.
The beauty of this is:
This is an invitation that stands open for you too.
Right now, right where you are.
