Let me start with this:
I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto.
It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or death struggle going on a few feet away.
There’s a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane.
The shining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy – try harder.
But it’s not working.
The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival.
Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap.
It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass.
Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
This fly is doomed.
It will die there on the windowsill.
Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open.
Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks.
With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap.
The breakthrough possibility is there.
It would be so easy.
Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different?
How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route, and determined effort, offer the most promise for success?
What logic is there in continuing, until death, to seek a breakthrough with “more of the same”?
No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly.
Regrettably, it’s an idea that will kill.
This marks the end of the excerpt from Price Pritchett’s book.
Now, here’s what I want to ask YOU:
Are you and your spouse trying to do the same thing, over and over, getting frustrated to no end – with no tangible success staring you in the face?
If so, it might be time for you to look for the door.
Find another opening.
Look for a DIFFERENT way to do things.
Look to LEARN something other than what you’d done so far to get you closer to your marriage goals.
Because hitting the same wall over and over and over again – turns out, it’s not very useful.
That’s some of you.
The Second Group
Then there’s going to be some of you – Who, frankly, haven’t done a whole lot at all.
Because you’ve gotten distracted with life and all the things it offers.
I am talking about those of you who just need to actually do more and try harder.
Pay attention to your husband.
Care for your wife.
Bring your relationship to the forefront of your everyday lives.
Re-engage with each other.
You’re the ones who have been SITTING – not even buzzing around – on the windowsill.
Motionlessly.
And you – You need to actually re-engage those wings and START moving again.
So….
Which one ARE you?
What do your next steps need to be?
Whichever camp you fall into – If you want help re-engaging your wings OR Learning a new, better way to be with each other, and you both are on the same page about that – Schedule a call to speak with me here. I’d love to help.
