Bring Your Marriage Back To Life

 

 

The Most Underrated Skill in Marriage

 

 

You not telling your spouse how something landed with you isn’t helping anybody.

You keeping the feedback to yourself, as if it were some kind of national secret, isn’t doing either one of you any good.

When she knows that the backrub got all of you tingly in seconds and made it really easy to fall asleep after the day that you had yesterday.

When she knows that you really loved hearing her voice in the middle of the day, even if for just one minute.

When she knows those things, guess what?

She’s going to be able to replicate them.

She’s going to want to do it again because she knows how it landed.

So, you might want to reconsider and stop hoarding all this.

It might be time.

 

Is Your Marriage Growing or Dying?

 

 

Even the biggest, most gorgeous looking tree, evergreen or not, if it’s healthy, will grow new buds every single year, adding tiny new growth despite its magnificence.

So, for you, no matter how old or established your marriage is, no matter how deep the roots are or how many cycles around the Sun you two have been together, you also ought to grow.

There should be new growth, new additions, expansions.

And I’m not talking about kids.

You two growing and learning something new, adding to your strength and beauty as a couple.

Now tell me, how do you plan to accomplish that this year?

The ONLY Way to Experience MORE CLOSENESS in Marriage

 

 

For you to get to the next stage in your marriage, the next level, there’s going to be some discomfort.

I guarantee it.

There are going to be some things that will seem hard at first, but there’s no way around it.

In order for you to get to the next place in your marriage,

for you to experience the next level of closeness that you haven’t felt or experienced ever, or in a really long time,

you’re going to have to do things that are outside of your comfort zone.

Here’s the thing, though: do not let that distract you into believing that you’re doing something wrong,

because it’s actually the exact right direction and the exact right thing to do.

 

In the Midst of ALL the Hard in Your Marriage, This is the Thing NOT to STOP Doing

 

 

Sometimes, in the chaos that life is in, the midst of all the hard –

I don’t know what your heart looks like right now, but it’s in the midst of those times that we quit the things that we say no to—

the very things, the life-giving things, that we need the most.

And as a result, we feel lifeless.

We’re exhausted.

Our buckets are empty, and have been empty for so long that we don’t even know where the hose would be to get them filled back up.

If this is you, if this is you and your spouse, I invite you, I encourage you, I implore you even—make time for those things again.

Bring life back into your life, and for each other.

Make it your mission to support one another so that you can have more life, more joy, back in your marriage, back in your lives.

 

Here’s What’s NOT Required

 

 

Here’s what I learned in my own marriage, coming up on 18 years, and what I’m seeing with my couples in my office:

If you don’t try, if you don’t do anything, that is one surefire guarantee that you won’t move the needle in your marriage.

No doubt about it.

When you do, even if it is, you know, even if it’s just a 25% intensity, or 50%, or 10%, even because that’s all you can do right now, and sometimes that is truly all we can do, you know,

because life still works in your favor, you will make progress.

The needle will move.

So don’t let the fact that it’s not your 100% stop you.

 

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