You don’t need a hundred different things to start.
To start making your marriage better—that is, your marriage—your spouse doesn’t require that.
You only need one.
Go out there.
Find one thing that you appreciate about your spouse.
Find one thing that you love about your husband or your wife.
And make it known.
Do it today, before the day is over.
And then tomorrow, repeat the same process.
Then the next day.
And then the day after that.
You got it.
Being stingy with stuff isn’t fun.
It doesn’t feel good—not for you, not for them.
It wouldn’t have even occurred to you before.
I mean, when you first got together—no way.
You wanted to give to each other, period.
With all your heart.
And when I say stingy, I mean being stingy with stuff like “good morning” or “good night.”
You know how many couples no longer say that to each other?
I do.
Breaks my heart.
Don’t be that couple.
Being stingy with stuff like a glass of water, a fresh cup of coffee, delivered across the living room floor—doesn’t pay off for anybody.
And being stingy isn’t good.
Being generous, on the other hand?
So much better.
But then again, you already knew that on some level anyway.
So I’m here, just wanting to say—let’s try that this week instead.
This is your PSA for the day.
Anything you focus on has the ability to flourish.
And yes, that applies to your marriage as well.
So I’ll say it one more time.
Anything you focus on has the ability to flourish.
You do with that information what you will.
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As you’re getting ready to go on that vacation or to that reunion,
I don’t know if it’s at the beach, or if it’s at Grandma’s house, or if it’s at a hotel somewhere by a lake or whatever—I want you—and I don’t usually say this,
I say don’t use text as a way of communicating with people—but this one is an exception.
Before you even head out,
I want you to send everybody that’s coming a reminder message.
That message will say something like:
“Looking forward to seeing everybody!
We all remember we all want to have a great time.
Let’s all help each other remember the rules that we agreed to abide by the last time we were together.
No talking politics.
Or no talking about religion.
No talking about money, other people’s weight—whatever it may be.”
I dare you to send it to the whole group.
Get it out of the way.
Set the stage before you even get there.
