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Connection Points for Your Marriage
Surprise Your Spouse with This ONE Trick – Connection Point For Your Marriage
When I tell people to do breakfast in bed for their spouse, they’re like, “But I hate breakfast in bed.”
I don’t want to get up at 5:30 in the morning.
And I’m always sitting back, and I’m like, “I never said it needed to be at 5:30.”
I’m saying do it at 2:30 in the afternoon on a Saturday.
Make their favorite thing.
Do it in the middle of their day at work.
It doesn’t mean that you have to be pulled out of your REM sleep in the middle of the night.
If that’s what it may be—at 5:00, or 6:00, or 7:00, or 8:00—do it whenever works.
But do it for your spouse, assuming they like breakfast food.
Or assuming they like the food that you bring them.
Just make it a thing.
And don’t fight so much against it.
Why You Should STOP Waiting to Fix Your MARRIAGE
Here’s exactly what I don’t want to happen to you.
I don’t want you to come see me or somebody like me 10 years, 15 years, 20 years down the road.
Ten years from now, coming and saying, “The only thing that we regret is that we would have done it sooner.”
I have couple after couple in my office—most of them now empty nesters, recently or have been for years—sitting with this.
Looking back, wishing that they would have come sooner.
Wishing they wouldn’t have waited this long.
What is it that’s getting in the way for you?
What is your excuse?
And what is your brain, what are your circumstances offering day in, day out, that you still keep believing?
And you tell yourself, or you talk yourself out of it as a result.
I don’t want you to be in regret in the end.
Wishing you had done something else.
Connection Point: Husbands, INDULGE Your Wives This Way for a Happier Marriage!
You guys keep pushing and kicking and screaming when your wife says, “I want to go over the calendar.”
And you’re like, “It’s already in Google. It’s already all in there.”
Why do we have to go?
Why do we have to spend 30 minutes or 45 minutes going through it?
If it helps your wife—if that’s what she is asking for—why would you not give it?
I want you to indulge her.
If it makes the difference between “here’s a chaotic week” to “here’s a week in peace,” because we both know who’s—and we’re reminded of who’s—supposed to be doing what…
Who’s doing what pickup.
Who’s taking care of what errand.
And who’s driving and home at whatever time.
If that’s what it takes, if that’s what she wants to do, I want you to give it to her.
I want you to stop screaming and kicking.
Give her the time.
Give her the energy.
Indulge her in it.
Your weeks are going to be magical as a result.
Avoid THESE Times for Serious Marriage Talks
There are obviously bad times for you and your spouse to have a conversation.
Not obvious enough—I keep seeing it left and right.
Right before bed?
Why are we still having conversations when one of you is halfway through their bedtime routine, three-quarters of the way in, and almost asleep?
The other one of you comes in like, “Hey, we need to address this.”
That is not the time.
That is one of those obvious times that we’re not to use.
So I beg you—
And if you don’t know, if you haven’t ever put them on paper or lined it up with your spouse, you might need to do that.
And that’s okay.
Ask them, “What are the worst times for you, where I should not be bringing stuff up to you?”
So that I don’t keep bringing stuff up at the worst times possible.
