Marriage Wisdom for Your Holidays (And More)

 

 

Marriage Myth BUSTED – Are You Selling YOURSELVES this LIE, Too?

 

 

Here’s some marriage wisdom for you today.

Stop selling yourself this lie.

For some of you, you’re still stuck in the 2020 mindset of:

We’re together all the time.

EXCEPT! What that means for you is we work from home, al the time.

We are together.

And we run into each other at lunch time.

We have short little conversations.

We’re together ALL the time – we don’t need to schedule time together.

And for some of you – that even means you’re sitting in the same office, arms length away from one another.

Only – they are doing their thing over there, and you’re doing your thing over here.

You’re getting on your calls, they’re getting on their calls.

You’re getting your work done, they’re getting their work assignments done.

That is NOT –

Let me repeat that for the people in the back –

That is NOT quality time spent together.

So stop selling yourself that lie.

It’s NOT true and you need to ACTUALLY do things that doesn’t require for either one of you to be doing any work.

 

Moving Mountains for Your Marriage Much?

 

 

Let me guess:

When your kids have something happening at night and you happen to work during that time –

Or they have a presentation at school that all the parents are invited to – and you want to be there –

You are going to move mountains to make that happen.

You’re going to reschedule the meeting you were supposed to have.

You’re going to go in early to make up for it, you’re gonna stay late another day.

Either way – You’re gonna do WHAT ever it takes to be there for that band concert.

Like I did earlier this week.

You’re gonna do whatever so that you can show up for the art exhibit or the game or the championship or whatever.

So that you can be there and do the thing that your kid expects you to be at.

Because YOU CARE about your child.

You care to be there.

You love them.

Of course – You wouldn’t miss it for the world.

The problem is this:

We don’t always extend that same courtesy to our spouses.

We don’t do the same thing there.

What is it that we’re communicating to them as a result?

When we don’t show up in that same way for some of the things that are important *to THEM*.

What is it that we are saying?

When that same rule doesn’t apply in your marriage.

Answer That question and you’ll be on your way.

 

Marriage Wisdom #3: Taming the Holiday Chaos in Your Marriage

 

 

As you go int o this holiday season, please know there is no holiday manual that you need to follow the rules of.

There is no such thing as Christmas Police.

There is nobody coming around and checking to make sure that your house has been deep cleaned.

That you have a minimum of 12 different sweets to offer any and everyone that comes through the door at any point in time.

That’s how *I* grew up – Anybody else?

There‘s nobody coming and counting up the gifts under the tree and make certain that there are at least 25 gifts to open for each kid in the family.

None of that’s happening.

You two get to decide – for your family.

And if your kids are older, you can invite them and get them involved in that decision, if you so choose.

But you all get to decide.

You don’t have to stress out about anything just because someone else is losing their mind and seems to be wanting to rub it off all over you.

 

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