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Your March Marriage Tips
Spring Break Plans? Avoid This MISTAKE
It is March 6th.
What’s the plan for spring break?
If you and your spouse have not started talking about it—YET—I encourage you to do so.
Tonight, tomorrow—anytime NOW is good.
Start the conversation NOW.
Start the conversation before it’s too late.
Like any other trip, any other vacation, if you’ve ever done one—spring break won’t plan itself.
And I don’t want you to sit in a pool of disappointment the minute that spring break starts, and you’re staring at a blank wall, with nothing scheduled—unless that’s what you had wanted to do.
Then that’s alright.
But I don’t want you to sit in regret after the week is over because you are painfully aware this was the last spring break with your oldest, or the last opportunity to do a particular activity as a family or go on a particular trip that you’d discussed for years now.
I’ve seen this happen TOO many times in my private practice as I’ve been working with couples for the last 12 years.
Here’s the most important thing: Don’t wait for your spouse to start.
The reality is, if EITHER one of you starts the conversation, that means BOTH of you are moving closer to a result and a decision that will be good for the two of you, and your family as well.
It’s a win for everyone involved.
Don’t buy into the lie that it’s not.
So, Happy Spring break planning—have so much fun!
If You’re Married, You NEED to Hear This!
If you’re married, hear THIS: You’re only one shift away from COMPLETELY changing your MARRIAGE.
Let me show you how.
There is a reason that the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People said this in his book: “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
If you’re saying that your marriage IS, in fact, your priority—your schedule should reflect it.
Anyone should be able to take a quick look at your schedule and know: This man, this woman—they clearly prioritize their marriage.
Which is why I typically say to my people: Make sure that you schedule and carve out the time you want to have OFF—meaning, no work—because it’s time that you have with your spouse.
Make it non-negotiable.
In Marriage – Honest Or Just MEAN?
If you’re married, I bet you’ve made this mistake.
You’ve said this to your spouse before:
“I’m not being mean. I’m just being honest.”
But here’s the truth—when you mix MEAN with any kind of honest, your spouse stops listening.
Even if they don’t walk away.
Even if they don’t say a word.
When you give “honesty” or offer feedback—or, heaven forbid, constructive criticism— if your spouse didn’t ask for it, they won’t want to hear it.
And they won’t be ready to hear it.
So instead of pushing your point, ask yourself:
“Am I sharing this to help… or am I sharing this because I’m mad or hurt about something?”
Because the way you deliver truth will determine whether it helps or hurts.
And in marriage?
In particular, you can be honest and mean OR you can tell the truth with love.
If you are going after connection, it prefers the latter.
Husbands – STOP Thinking This
If you’re still telling yourself this as a married man, you’re doing it wrong.
“I don’t have to try so hard anymore—I already got her. She already said yes. She’s mine.”
But here’s the truth—marriage isn’t a one-time win.
She may have said yes on your wedding day, but she chooses you again every single day.
So here’s how you need to switch that mindset—both in your head and out loud:
“I got myself an amazing woman. I got lucky, and I know it.
I’m not gonna stop showing up for her.
I’m going to keep paying attention, listening, and caring.
Because she doesn’t have to stay—she chooses to.
And I won’t take that for granted.”
Marriage isn’t about winning her once—it’s about winning her always.
Your Spouse Isn’t CHANGING? Here’s the Fix
Your marriage conversations are missing this one thing—I guarantee it.
I’ve seen it COUNTLESS times over the last twelve years working with couples.
You tell your spouse WHAT to stop doing.
Of course, you do—because it’s annoying. You hate it.
That part’s great. Don’t stop doing that.
BUT… you leave the conversation incomplete.
You don’t tell them what to do instead.
And I don’t mean in a vague, big-picture kind of way.
Telling them to “be nice to you”?
Asking them to “be more thoughtful”?
Not helpful.
So here’s the real question:
Whatever you’re asking them—what does that actually look like for you?
Is it that you don’t want your calls going to voicemail every single time?
Is it that you’d love them to plan something for you two this summer—and actually make it happen?
And listen—even as a marriage coach, I still mess this up.
I’ve been married eighteen years, and I’ve had to learn this lesson too.
So, if your marriage conversations feel incomplete…
