Happiness in Marriage

 

 

THIS Is How You Know He’s a Keeper

 

 

Yet another proof that it’s the small stuff, man.

A couple of days ago, he made banana bread again.

I don’t know if this happens in your family, but we go through seasons—cooking something all the time—like, once or twice a week—
and then we just… stop for a while and move on to something else.

Anyway—before leaving on a quick trip, he made a loaf.

And while he was gone? The girls ate most of it.

I thought, “I should make more before he gets home—he’s gonna be disappointed if it’s all gone.”

But work got busy, and I didn’t get to it.

I came home late that night—and the second I walked in the door…

And I KNEW.

I smelled the banana bread.

He had ALREADY made another loaf.

And as he walked up to greet me, seeing my AWW face, he says—

“I didn’t want you to come home to it all being gone.

I wanted to make sure you could have some if you wanted some.”

Tell me that ain’t sweet.

And now I wanna know—

what’s something sweet YOUR man does for you?

Drop it in the comments—I read every single one.

Every Happy COUPLE Does THIS – Do YOU?

 

 

Here’s what every happy couple does on a weekly basis—and it’s NOT what you think.

It’s NOT going on dates twice a week.

Or it’s NOT having a his and her shower in the house.

It’s NOT even having sex on a regular basis.

While all of these things are great for marriage… no doubt, the one thing that actually keeps the air clean?

Cleaning out the crap.

Sitting down together, regularly, and asking:

What’s getting in the way of us feeling good together?

What repair needs to happen?

What is it that we need to clear up between us?

And if you haven’t done this in years, yeah, it’ll feel rusty—but do it anyway.

Get back on that train.

Because tell me—

Have you ever seen a couple going on dates while they’re still mad at each other?

No? Me neither.

Have you ever seen a couple being intimate while they’re angry as heck?

Yeah… not that either.

Most of us don’t want to go there—let alone be close—when we’re upset, resentful, or holding things back.

So if you want everything else to fall into place…

Start here.

MARRIED & It’s Not THAT Bad?

 

 

Here’s a common thought that keeps married couples stuck—and they don’t even realize it.

It’s the ancient truth:

“Good is the enemy of great.”

Or its sneaky cousin:

“Well, we’re not REALLY in a terrible spot…”

He doesn’t hit me.

He doesn’t cheat.

No affairs.

He doesn’t steal my money.

He doesn’t call me names.

It’s not awful.

It’s not THAT bad.

But tell me this—is that the goal?

To have a marriage that’s just… not bad?

Are you stuck in that cycle too?

Maybe your marriage is okay—

but do you want it to be better?

Because here’s the thing—

“Not bad” isn’t the same as “great.”

And settling for just okay?

That’s how couples drift apart.

So… is your marriage growing?

Or just not bad?

Beauty in MARRIAGE

 

 

You know what’s beautiful to watch – in watching my couples work?

It’s somebody realizing that they’ve been putting ALL the mental load on their spouse over the years, and they start picking up one piece after the next so that it’s more equal.

More balanced that way.

That’s gorgeous.

That’s sexy.

You tell me what else is really cool.

 

Marriage – Doing it RIGHT?

 

 

Are you missing the mark in your marriage?

You might ACTUALLY be doing the right kinds of things in your relationship, but you might be missing it because you’re making one of these two mistakes.

One, you aren’t nearly doing them often enough.

Here’s an example:

I’ll ask a couple about this, and it turns out that they did plan a glorious vacation together, just the two of them—but when I ask when that was, they’ll say, “Ehm, five years ago? Probably, for sure, before the pandemic.“

Or a fun Friday night—and again, how far back was that?

For her birthday—so September—again, that’s 6 months ago.

So you have the right idea, you’re doing the RIGHT thing, but they’re so far and few between.

The other mistake is…

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