Here’s an uncomfortable truth for your marriage.
“I can’t” keeps you stuck in your comfort zone.
We love to say “I can’t” when we’re overwhelmed.
When we’re tired.
Or even a little bit lazy.
But the truth is, you can.
The question that you really want to ask yourself is, will you choose growth or will you stay stuck?
Your marriage.
Your health.
Even your life depends on that choice.
What is it going to be?
Don’t get married in 2025.
You heard me.
I’m serious, and I mean it.
If you still want to do whatever you want, whenever you want it, without anybody else’s input or impact, don’t get married.
If you want to spend your money on whatever shiny toy catches your eye, without having to check in with your spouse to see if it fits your family’s priorities, don’t get married.
And if you want to come home when you feel like it, or not come home at all, and not have anyone notice or care where you are — you know what?
Don’t get married.
Because here’s the truth that nobody tells you before we say “I do.”
Marriage requires certain trade-offs — on purpose.
And if you’re not willing to step into those trade-offs with clarity, you’ll either wreck a marriage as you’re trying to create it,
Or you’re going to regret stepping into one too soon.
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If you only do one thing for your marriage today, let it be this.
Give your husband, give your wife a 20-second hug.
An actual, real hug.
Do it before you leave for the day.
Or do it before you go to bed.
20 seconds.
Let them melt into your arms.
It creates connection.
It lowers stress.
And it reminds the two of you that you’re in this together.
Save this to remember tomorrow.
This is especially solid advice if you know that your spouse’s number one love language is physical touch.
So, you take it or leave it.
Do what you will with it.
Let me know how it goes.
Intimacy isn’t just about sex.
It’s about something much deeper than that.
And if you don’t know what that is, I have an entire video where I talk about that in detail.
But intimacy grows in the soil of safety.
When you feel safe with someone,
When you feel seen by your spouse,
Your love can deepen.
So today, be that soft place for your spouse to land.
That safety — it’s where closeness starts again.
Make it happen today.
She said to him, “You never help with the kids.”
He used to snap back.
But this time, he took a breath and he asked,
“Honey, tell me what you need me to do right now.”
She blinked.
Paused.
She was in disbelief.
And then she answered in a calm way.
And just like that, the tension between the two of them dropped.
Transformation doesn’t require perfection.
It just asks us to be curious instead of combative.
When was the last time that you were combative?
Can you change that and be curious instead?
Five things you can do today to improve your marriage:
Number one. Say thank you, and mean it.
Make it sound like you mean it.
Leave no room for interpretation.
Number two. Find your spouse and ask them, “Hey, my love, how can I support you today?”
Then sit there.
Wait for the answer.
And then do what you can to do the thing that they’re asking from you, to the best of your ability.
Number three. If you’re going somewhere, if you’re doing something together, hold their hand.
Just randomly make contact.
Make physical touch happen.
Number four. Put your phone down during dinner.
Don’t pay attention to it.
Turn it off.
Flip it on its side so it’s not a distraction at all.
Just be there for dinner with your spouse.
Number five. At some point during the day, say, “Hey hun, I’m so proud of us.”
Tiny.
Doable.
Powerful.
Do it—and tell me it doesn’t.
