Why is your marriage falling apart?
Do you know why?
I had dinner with my husband a couple of weeks back, and I told him that I was working on this video and that there were eight reasons why your marriage might be falling apart.
He’s like, “Do you think I can come up with all of them?”
He came up with four.
Do you think you can come up with all eight?
If not, go check out the related video.
You’re going to be glad you did.
Are you married to somebody from a different country?
What’s their weird thing that they like to eat or drink?
Let me know in the comments.
Here’s what I just found.
It says—I don’t know if you can see it—“Refrigerate upon arrival. Perishable. Open immediately.”
So, that’s what I’m doing.
I already cut this open a little bit.
Wonder if I can do this so you can see it.
Anybody want to take a guess?
Oh, I didn’t get this side.
What’s in this beauty?
It’s a late birthday gift to myself because that’s what I do now.
Are you ready?
Can you see it?
Any guesses?
Who knows what these are?
Chestnuts.
Yep, that’s right.
And only because you can buy them just once a year.
I get two of these puppies.
They’re slightly big, but they go faster than you think.
But I need to go take them, put them in the refrigerator downstairs because they won’t fit up here.
All right, tell me—how weird is this on a scale of 1 to 10?
The weirdest.
And I still am not going to care.
I bet you didn’t know this about me.
Well, now you know.
All right.
What’s the weird thing that you buy that you can’t get for your spouse but once or twice a year?
I’m dying to know.
Everyone loves to quote, “A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,” right?
But most couples never actually take that step.
They wait for the right mood.
They wait for the perfect timing, which doesn’t exist.
Or they wait for their spouse to do it and go ahead and change first, right?
They wait for them to take the first step.
But that first step—it’s never convenient, and it’s never equal.
Literally never.
Somebody always has to go first.
Be the one who takes the first step.
You can do that for the two of you.
Both of you will benefit, hands down.
And you will be glad you did.
Even if it feels unfair.
Even if it feels unequal.
That is how every change starts happening.
If you’re here because you’re after a better marriage for you and your spouse, this message is for you.
Stop trying to think your way to a better marriage.
You cannot consume or overconsume your way into a better marriage or into connection.
You have got to create it.
That’s the only way that it works.
