The moment that you’re tempted to believe or to think that your wife is mad at you, just walk over there and ask her the question, “Are you mad at me?”
And find out.
And then trust her response.
Is holiday cheer replaced with holiday fear?
You’re not alone.
Many couples find the Christmas season especially difficult.
If you would like to discover simp relationship tips to manage stress during the holidays and ease some or all of the holiday anxiety so that you get to still experience a more peaceful married life with your spouse, I have a new video out where I talk about those things exactly.
Go check it out.
Here’s today’s teaback truth for your marriage.
Let your marriage be used to build and not to destroy, part two.
Because every interaction in marriage does one of two things: it builds connection or it breaks down.
Every sigh, every comment, every eye roll even — they’re all energy.
And the question is, are you using that energy to build something beautiful or to chip away at it piece by piece?
You don’t have to be perfect at it.
Just intentional.
Build more than you break.
That’s what we’re after.
That’s how you win at this marriage thing long term.
If the problem in your marriage, like in so many other marriages, is communication, you’re not going to be able to communicate your way to better communication.
So then that needs to become the priority, getting help with and around communication in your marriage.
The biggest mistake couples make when it comes to compromise is thinking that it always means meeting you halfway.
But sometimes the middle ground is actually the weakest ground.
Especially when one of you is hurting.
Compromise doesn’t fix pain.
Understanding is what does that.
Which means if you’re both uncomfortable, nobody wins.
Not one of you, not the other one of you.
You both lose in that process.
Sometimes love means one of you bends a little further because it’s the right thing in that moment, not because it’s quote-unquote “fair.”
In marriage, the goal isn’t to meet halfway every single time.
It’s to meet with your heart.
It’s to meet your spouse where your spouse is at.
Try that on for a change.
