Have you two talked about what’s happening for Thanksgiving yet?
Ehm…no?
Do it today!
I mean it.
You know what he apologized for?
He apologized and said, “I’m so sorry, but they tried making you the ginger shots, and I’m just not going to be able to make them. It didn’t work.”
“So, whatever you did before, you’re going to have to keep buying ginger shots at the store.”
What a sweet man.
You’re a man’s weight like this.
On a different note, you are looking at Thanksgiving and stressing the heck out about it already.
Go check out the video that I recorded.
I posted it earlier today.
If you need to know how to handle your in-laws without losing your marriage or your mind, go watch it.
This is what Friday night sometimes looks like.
There’s the Kleenex.
I already finished one.
There’s another one.
My husband just walked in and brought me this tea and apologized.
Today’s tea bag truth bomb for your marriage.
Inner peace creates peace in the world.
I would even say inner peace creates peace in your home.
Because the energy that you carry into your relationship, into your marriage, is the very same energy that your spouse feels also.
If you’re anxious, if you’re reactive, if you’re on edge, that energy fills the room.
But the same is true for calm.
When you find peace within yourself, your words automatically soften.
Your tone automatically shifts.
The conversations that you have with your spouse change.
And suddenly your home starts to feel lighter because peace always starts with one person choosing it first.
Do you want to be that person?
Today is the time that you start being that person for your marriage.
Are you ready to commit to your marriage for this fall?
Are you ready to set aside all the excuses and say, “I’m coming. I’m doing this.
This relationship matters to me so much.
I want this for my kids.
I want this for my wife.
And I want this for my husband.”
So, are you ready to commit?
Are you ready to recommit?
Are you ready to poke holes in what seems like an untouchable schedule and find ways, create ways, to reconnect, to reconsider, to recommit to the person that you married?
The biggest mistake I see couples make when they’re trying to reconnect is they do more—more date nights, more trips, more activities—but they don’t change how they’re actually showing up for all of those activities.
Reconnection doesn’t happen through just the doing.
It happens through both of you showing up and being present.
Real, actual eye contact.
Real, actual attention.
If you can bring your full self for just ten minutes a day and show up that way in your marriage, that’s going to be worth more than any fancy weekend getaway.
I promise you.
That’s how you get back into the habit of having conversations with your spouse on a regular basis.
It just starts with those three words.
Sometimes we make it more complicated than it needs to be in life and in marriage both.
When you want to start a conversation, when you have a sense with your spouse that you two need to talk, that it’s been too long, just like you would do with a friend—”Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a long time. How have you been?”
Or, “Hey, it’s been too long. We need to have coffee,” or however you say that.
That’s how I say it when I send it.
With your spouse, you can just use—and I just offered this to a couple this evening—you can just use the three most basic words together: “Can we talk?”
And you start the conversation.
You ask them how they’ve been.
You ask what’s been on their mind.
Or you ask how their lunch was, who they had lunch with.
You talk about the kids.
You talk about their preferences.
And you talk about whatever.
