I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving.
Just in case you forgot, my daughter just reminded me to say: get off work, stop doing work, and go be with your family.
Go be with your spouse.
That’s all.
’Cause you might miss stuff like this.
Married couples, listen up.
Here’s a message for you.
It’s delivered by a five-year-old.
But you’re smarter than a five-year-old.
She comes and tells a story that there was a boy who scared her.
She went and told him she didn’t like it.
He apologized, and he never did it again.
So, for those of you who are always like, “No, but I want the I’m sorry. I want the apology. I want the thing.”
You don’t.
I keep telling people this.
We don’t want the apology.
I mean, it’s nice to have.
We don’t actually want the apology.
What we are really after is something more.
What we’re actually looking for is for the person to not do the thing they’re apologizing for—and to not do it again, or again, or again—for that behavior to stop.
So, be like that five-year-old.
Be like that kid.
They apologized, and then they never did it again.
Be that husband.
Be that wife.
Let’s try to do this.
Your in-laws said something that made your blood boil.
Here’s what not to do.
You don’t have to take the bait.
Every family has their trigger topic, whether it’s politics, parenting, or whatever.
When that moment comes, though, I want you to take a deep breath and say, “That’s fascinating.”
And then you just pivot.
You protect your peace, not your ego.
For more on how to handle in-laws without losing your marriage—or your mind, for that matter—watch the full video.
I’ll see you there.
