If you want a deeper connection with your spouse in your marriage, you cannot afford to misunderstand intimacy.
Most couples are chasing only one tiny piece of it and miss the bigger picture completely.
This video explains the six—yes, six—types of intimacy.
And I talk about how to start building intimacy in your marriage and create true emotional intimacy as a result that lasts.
We’re told that compromise is the key to a great marriage.
But sometimes compromise actually makes things worse.
Because when your spouse brings you pain, meeting them halfway doesn’t heal anything.
It just leaves both of you unheard and completely frustrated.
The goal isn’t to compromise their pain.
It’s to understand it.
To meet them where they are, not halfway in between.
This has got to be a first.
Don’t believe this.
I walked back into the office after Thanksgiving.
This couple walks in, and they’re telling me about how their Thanksgiving went.
They’re confessing that they ended up watching this thing that turned out to be the exact same thing we watched with my husband and our girls.
Champagne Diaries—I think that’s the name of the movie.
It was my husband who picked it.
But he’s like, “Well, I was here with four other women, so of course they’re not going to watch any army movie or whatever other World War something-or-other.”
Tell me, what are you two watching this holiday, or as a family even?
Anything good?
Anything I should see?
What’s your pick?
Before the man of the hour walks in here, lays himself down, and starts snoring, let me say this quickly.
Here’s a reminder for all of us.
Kindness matters.
I went to a high school event for our older daughter tonight, and that’s partly what they talked about.
It’s just that kindness matters—always and still.
And not just with all the other people around us, right?
Not just with the people you see at work, the front desk lady or guy, the driver, the teachers you talk to, or the nurse at school for your kids.
Kindness matters.
When we bring it home, we forget.
Sometimes we use up our energy.
We use up our kindness on all the other people.
And we forget to bring a dose home to the people we love the most, right?
The person we married.
The kids.
If you have pets, we usually don’t forget them.
But your spouse?
Yeah, it still matters—always.
