Are you and your spouse in the middle of a hard season?
Are you two finding yourselves in a valley right now?
Has life been really tough?
Here’s one sentence that might help you refocus and look at it from a different angle.
In the depths of adversity lies the seed of your greatest triumphs.
It’s in the middle of the hard that the wins and the triumphs come.
The breakthroughs.
Remind yourself and your spouse.
Your marriage tip for the day.
Here’s a marriage tip for you for this holiday season.
Have you ever considered that what you think is true—that judgment, or the judgment that you think is coming because you make a decision that’s different from what the expected response is?
Have you ever considered that they don’t actually judge you for it?
That it’s a possibility that they don’t think that what you’re doing—if it’s something that’s different, if it’s something where you say you want to do your own thing—is selfish?
Have you ever considered that they don’t actually think that it’s selfish?
Unless, of course, they say it out loud.
But short of that, have you ever considered that that’s a possibility?
And if you haven’t, I want to invite you to start doing that this year.
Because for every time that we do—for every time we give it so much value on this side, we give it so much weight—we forget that there is an equal opportunity, or an even greater opportunity, for the opposite to be true.
Take that with you.
And if you needed this reminder today, drop me a “not selfish” in the comments below.
I want to see how many of you do this…
Here’s what we’re doing for our Christmas tradition.
Here’s the sustenance that we’re providing.
And here’s the other part.
Half of it is already missing.
Guess who’s the person that gets to sit in one of these beanie chairs.
And we go downstairs.
My favorite part.
Wait a minute.
Before you begin, I must ask that you pay in advance.
My fence, please.
What’s your family’s favorite thing to do together?
Drop it in the comments.
Let me know.
Are you a delusional couple?
And I’m saying this with all the love in the world.
So before you get offended, let me explain what I mean.
If things aren’t going according to plan, and y’all’s conversations keep going sideways, and one or both of you is quietly telling yourselves, “Ah, it’ll fix itself. It’ll work out eventually,” right?
Let me stop you right there.
I’ve been doing this for 13 years, and that strategy hasn’t worked for one single married couple yet.
Marriage doesn’t magically fix itself.
Avoidance isn’t a strategy.
It’s not patience.
It’s not the trick.
And time—it doesn’t heal what you refuse to touch.
So stop waiting for it to fix itself and start doing something about it.
You may want to start with when to talk and not what to say.
Watch the related video for that.
Quick question.
If you’re married, do you have a husband who works best when he’s working toward something, accomplishing something, and then knowing that he’s going to get a reward after?
Let me know in the comments below.
I can’t be the only one, right?
And yes, if you must know, this is part of a very official research project that I’m working on.
