10 am Breakfast of Champions (Marriage Coach Edition)
Who knows where I’m at?
This is how you know it’s vacation mode.
It’s a new year.
When is your next vacation?
Just the two of you.
Your marriage will thank you!
Feeling taken for granted sucks.
That’s why.
What not to do in your marriage in January of 2026—or in the whole year, for that matter.
Here’s part two.
Don’t take your spouse for granted.
And here’s what I mean.
I don’t say thank you because I have to.
I don’t say thank you to my husband for all the things that he’s doing because he necessarily demands it from me.
And I say thank you to him because I am aware of the effort, the time, the energy—all of the things that it takes.
The skill, sometimes, right?
All of the things that it takes for him to accomplish that task.
And it means that I don’t have to do it afterward.
I am free from having to do this thing.
Whether it’s making dinner.
Whether it’s shoveling the driveway.
Or whether it’s driving someplace.
I am saying thank you because I see what he is doing, and it means something to me.
I want him to feel seen.
And I don’t want him to feel taken for granted.
Why?
Feeling taken for granted sucks.
That’s why.
That’s why you don’t want that for your spouse.
I would know—but that’s a story for another day.
And it has everything to do with our kids, and not with my husband.
In the end, it leads us to being—and feeling—appreciated.
I have more parts to this coming tomorrow.
If this is helpful, make sure that you know where to find me.
Hit the subscribe button—or, at a minimum, hit the like button—and then you can look those up.
I’ll see you then.
Here’s another marriage lesson from a movie we watched a couple nights ago.
“200 players isn’t fun, Ray. It’s slave labor.”
Fundamentals are the building blocks of fun.
Who can name the movie?
Drop it in the comments.
Yes, she’s young—but yes, she’s right.
Do you two even know what the fundamentals are for your marriage?
And if so, are you taking care of them?
Are you doing the fundamental things every day, every week, every month?
Do you even know what they are?
Here’s the thing.
Before you can do them—before you can take care of them between the two of you—you’ve got to know what they are.
Here’s the next one in the series: the things not to do in your marriage in 2026.
Don’t start serious conversations at the wrong time—like late at night.
You’ve just traveled halfway across the globe.
Don’t do it then.
When somebody is not feeling well.
If you’re like, “Hmm, I wonder if I do this?”
I have an entire video on this topic, with all the mistakes laid out in detail.
Go check that out so that you don’t keep making these mistakes in 2026.
Your marriage deserves better.
I did mean to ask my husband to water it, and then I forgot.
My husband got sick, so I didn’t want to bother him.
It was uncomfortable for me to think through.
I’d have to bug somebody over the holidays for them to come and stop by and do this thing.
And if you don’t, then your plants just die.
This is exactly how many leaves I had to throw away.
This poor plant—look at how sad it looks.
And I’m hopeful.
I’m hopeful for this one.
This one, on the other hand—unless I find somebody with a miracle cure—I don’t know if this one’s going to make it.
This is my favorite, favorite plant, and I killed it.
I left it with no water in my office for the entire two and a half weeks.
And it’s not the end of the world, obviously.
But here’s a reminder.
If you want your marriage to grow.
If you want your marriage to remain with green leaves on the outside, on the inside, and everywhere.
You’ve got to water it.
You’ve got to pay attention.
You can’t just leave it alone and hope for the best.
You can’t just do the whole, “Oh, I’m hopeful,” right?
I can’t do it.
It won’t work.
They will die.
Keep that in mind as we go into 2026.
How are you going to water your marriage so that this doesn’t happen to you?
Don’t let your marriage die in 2026.
