Today we are talking about how marriage counseling works and how it is like painting. When couples walk into my office and they are brave enough to admit that they have no idea how this thing called ‘counseling’ works, I am delighted. Because that way I get to explain to them how I work […]
Whether you have been married one day, a hundred or ten thousand and five (don’t worry, I did the math for you – that’s twenty seven years and some – you’re welcome) — How to improve your marriage is a question couples want an answer to. Why? Because no matter where they stand, […]
How to talk to your spouse seems quite plain and simple on paper. It seems like you and I should know what to do, like it’s something that should just come naturally. Easily, even. And yet, it’s sometimes not as simple as it seems. If you are one of the many people who don’t […]
Once upon a time, there was a Grammy-winning banjo-playing genius who fell in love with an amazing banjo-playing lady genius.* Then the two got married. Then one day they decided to start a family. With great expectation they looked forward to their summer of newborn nesting and eagerly planned their three months “off” […]
When was the last time you had your teeth checked or professionally cleaned by a dental hygienist? When was the last time you got your oil changed? Or your tires checked? Or your eyes examined? I bet that even if you don’t know the exact date, you will be able to tell me at […]
Knowing how to save your marriage when you are in a rut may bring on a headache. When you are feeling discouraged in your marriage (and we all do at times), it is easy to desire one quick & easy fix. Unfortunately, as the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Contrary […]
When you are feeling discouraged in your marriage (and we all do at times), it is easy to desire one quick & easy fix. Unfortunately, as the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Contrary to what the film industry has been telling us for decades, happy marriages don’t just happen. You […]
How not to compare your marriage to somebody else’s – when you first hear that, it sounds so simple, so clean. Yet, I am sure you’ve heard it said — comparison is the thief of joy. And what strikes me about comparison in our high-tech, plugged-in age is that this thief sure is […]
There’s lots of advice out there on how to give an apology that has lasting impact: an apology that results in a restored relationship. Whether the process requires four steps, or eight steps, one of the things that rings most true to me is the need to own your responsibility for the injury […]
How Do You Know You Are in Love? — The Original Question I came across that headline the other day when searching for something completely unrelated. I couldn’t stop but think – is that really a question that we need to be asking ourselves? Doesn’t every young heart know that it happened when it […]
