Silence That’s DEADLY I had a couple in here last week who said, “We don’t really fight. We just stopped talking for a while.” I even had someone say, “I don’t remember what we used to talk about for so long all those years ago when we would spend whole days […]
Better Marriages Everywhere If you’re ever finding yourself tempted to text your spouse during the day, did you ever regret it afterward? Here’s the rubric that I go by. One that I’ve used myself in my 18-year-old marriage. Yes, our marriage is an adult now. And one that I’ve used with […]
You can’t FIX What You AVOID Sometimes couples will come in and say, “We want to have better conflict resolution.” But they haven’t had a real conversation since that emotional affair a few years back. Here’s the thing: you can’t work on the symptom and not look at the source. Not […]
Don’t Waste Those Precious Nights It’s Friday night. Are you too struggling, like so many of us married folk struggle, with looking through Netflix and just not being able to find what you want to watch? If you’re looking for meaningful ways to connect, click the video. Your Marriage – THIS […]
Marriage Bomb: THIS Changes EVERYTHING I had a couple sitting across from me. The standoff mode—you know the one. Neither one wanted to go first, to soften. So I said, “Look, one of you has to go first. Why not you?” Going first doesn’t mean that you were wrong. It doesn’t […]
Accidentally Building WALLS in Marriage? Despite what you heard growing up, you’re not too much. You are not a burden. You just have needs, just like everyone else walking on this planet. So say what you need. Say it clearly. Say it kindly. But don’t keep it inside. Why? Because silence […]
Marriage HACK for Parents Okay, so marriage stacking sounds great. But what if you’ve got kids around 24/7? Totally get it. Here’s the trick: you include them, and then carve out space with each other inside the chaos. While the kids are doing homework or bath time—assuming that they’re old enough to […]
EXHAUSTED? Best Marriage Hack How do you do marriage stacking when we’re tired as all get out? Some days, I’m too tired to talk, let alone connect. But that’s where gentle stacking comes in. You don’t have to perform. You don’t have to have deep talks every single night of the […]
Want a STRONG Marriage? THIS That’s what I’m calling habit number nine for a strong relationship: reach out. Just because. Not because it’s date night. And not because it’s y’all’s anniversary. Not because it’s somebody’s birthday. This is when you just reach out just because. You send the text. And you give […]
MARRIAGE Game-Changer: DO IT Here’s my rule of thumb for hard conversations in marriage. If you know you need to have it, the fact that it’s hard is not a reason to avoid it. Avoiding that conversation will always cost you more than having it—emotionally, relationally, and long-term. In the moment, […]
