So, you tell me you don’t have one. One hour each week to come in to meet with me for a session. Seriously. I do want to question that — For your sake, not mine. [Yes, I see my couples once a week.] Listen to what you are saying. Just for a second. […]
We rarely talk about this. But it needs to be talked about. Because, in your marriage as much as anywhere else in your life, your capacity to suck is what propels you forward (Or keeps you stuck in one place.) How do you mean? Great question – I would love to tell you. […]
What I hear – Both Stubborn – Your Story So, you tell me that you are both stubborn. It usually comes up right after you say that you are SO very different. (No need to go back to that – I already wrote about that here.) The very first time we talk on the […]
If you’ve been around a while, you know I love what I do. How much I see every day as a privilege, not to be taken lightly. People opening their hearts – That’s a big deal. Client Wins Here’s one of my all-time-most-favorite things. Hands down. Couples telling me about what […]
Bringing Two Worlds Under One Roof – What it was THEN “It’s not like we didn’t know. When we first met, that was part of what made it so exciting. We’d even brag about it to our family and friends, not even kidding. He grew up on one continent. I grew up […]
Today we are talking about this pattern that I’ve noticed. I’m going to be bold about the numbers because I have been hearing about it over and over and over again. Chances are, 40-50% of you are sitting in this place. And when I say sitting in this place, what I mean is […]
Let me get right to it. We get married because we want someone to speak to those parts of us that feel weak, shattered, broken. We get married because we are looking for someone to take us in and do the repair. Because secretly, we want the other person to take care of […]
Let’s see if you can relate. Sitting there, at brunch, we were talking all things married life as we were preparing for the big day. Ladies – some family, some friends from church, gathered together to get me ready for what’s to come. All of them at least twenty years my senior. Some, […]
Celebrate Your Victories: This Is How It Started So you asked your spouse to do something specific. Like — cook a meal. Or clean the house. And you come home one day, late because of a meeting you had to attend. You walk in and you sort of can’t believe what you […]
She got really quiet before she said it out loud. Not that it’s an uncommon occurrence on the phone, but her voice on that day just got particularly silent. Remembering Love – How It Often Goes Sometimes the initial phone consultation goes that way. “What if we don’t make it? What if the […]
