Today, I have a question for you and it’s THIS: HOW are you STARVING your marriage? Ever so subtle, I know. But for real — What is your energy leak? Where are you suffocating your relationship with your spouse at the cost of something else? On one of my recent walks I noticed […]
Let me start with this: True Story I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or death struggle going on […]
Nobody cleans during a tornado. You don’t either. Of course you DON’T. Nobody does. What’s this talk of tornadoes, you ask — Let me explain. Why Nobody Cleans During a Tornado YOU CANNOT clean during a tornado. We all know this, right? You are collecting all the humans (and pets) you […]
I don’t know how we didn’t notice the progress being done. One day, we came back from church, and it was all completed. It’s not like the birds decided to do it in the back of the house somewhere we never go. They built it right here, on top of a light, right […]
If I were to write a book titled the 10 Cardinal Sins of Marriage, chapter 1 would be titled: STOP. Calling. Each. Other. Names !!!!! For the love of the universe. Seriously, though. Stop the name calling. Some are the REALLY obvious ones. Those that rarely anyone would ever fight me on. […]
Language Matters. [And I’m not just saying that just because I was a linguist in my previous life = always a linguist at heart. We are talking about a sneaky little shift, afterall.] HOW you say things to one another in your marriage matters. “That’s obvious, Danka, what’s new?” Hang tight. This one though […]
Today is the second of November. As we enter this ever-so-overly-scheduled season of the year, here’s my question for you: Do you dare make a change this year? What do you mean, Danka? This: What are you two going to say “NO” to? On purpose. Thoughtfully. And holding each other to it. You do […]
My husband Jon and I – we didn’t explicitly have an agreement about this. Or a huge discussion on the topic that I can remember. One that led to us signing a document of some sort at the end of that meeting. But – Without needing to say it out loud, it was […]
Did you know? It matters who you hang out with. And not just in a professional sense, though also true – How does the saying go? “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” You know that one. It matters on a personal level also. For you […]
Remember how I talked about the hidden camera in my office? (And no, I still don’t have one.) You might not – it’s been a while. But I discussed something where it felt like ALL my couples were dealing with ONE THING that week. Almost as if they were passing notes in the […]
