For years, (don’t ask how many) I would tell myself that I can’t drink smoothies in the winter time because it made me cold.
You know, green drinks.
Given that I’d use frozen fruit or cold juice or coconut water from the fridge, my body would just end up shivering for hours afterwards.
No joke – this isn’t made up.
I never did understand the people who, at my old gym, would drink water that I wouldn’t even call water with ice.
It was ice with a little bit of water.
Salads – Same thing.
Summer time?
No problem – bring on the cool drink after a decent walk and sweat dripping down my face.
Then one day, I realized that’s made up.
I don’t have to drink ice-cold green smoothies in the winter.
I can pull the fruit out the night before and let it thaw out in the fridge overnight.
In a pinch, let it sit on the counter for a couple of hours in the morning.
I don’t usually drink my smoothies first thing in the morning anyway.
Yes, it involves thinking/planning ahead.
But – I got to this point where I refuse to keep lying to myself in this way.
And I’ve been drinking smoothies no matter how cold it is outside.
And in this Minnesota land that we live in, it gets to be pretty cold some days.
Then I realized we ALL do this.
We do it everywhere, not just in the kitchen with our breakfast choices.
So I want to ask you —
What are you lying to yourself about?
What are you lying to yourself about when it comes to your marriage?
That you can’t pull off date nights with your honey because it’s too expensive?
And that’s why they became a thing of the past?
That you can’t send little bombs of love over text a couple times a day when that’s what they asked for because that’s not who you are?
That you aren’t someone who thinks ahead to plan something for you and the kids to do so that your wife or husband gets that necessary dose of alone time for a few hours on a Saturday?
That you can’t love your person in the way they are loved best – by doing some acts of service (e.g. laundry) because you can’t figure it our or always do it ‘wrong’??
How are you doing this in your relationship?
I want to save you from wasting years of your effort.
Take a moment – do a quick inventory.
See where this is happening for you.
Where what you have been telling yourself is actually not true.
Not even a little bit.
And then go ahead.
Schedule some time for you two and your man/woman know.
Send that text.
Find an activity for this weekend, and gift your person with a few hours of peace.
Or fill in whatever yours is.
Just stop lying to yourself in that way.
Oh, and one more thing.
It’s definitely worth your time.
