The holidays have been coming up a lot. At home, in my office, everywhere. With Thanksgiving behind us, and Christmas and New Years ahead, it’s no wonder really. Talk about the Holidays – The WHY You might be sitting there, thinking to yourself, I dread it already. If you were to […]
Let me get right to it. We get married because we want someone to speak to those parts of us that feel weak, shattered, broken. We get married because we are looking for someone to take us in and do the repair. Because secretly, we want the other person to take care of […]
You knew when you passed by all the flowers that something’s up. Yes, there were signs, you think to yourself. I just missed them. Completely. (It’s what I do.) So you are here, the Friday before Mother’s day, with nothing to show for yourself. And the panic starts to set in. You think you […]
Let’s see if you can relate. Sitting there, at brunch, we were talking all things married life as we were preparing for the big day. Ladies – some family, some friends from church, gathered together to get me ready for what’s to come. All of them at least twenty years my senior. Some, […]
Huh? Easter egg hunt? And – What does an Easter egg hunt have to do with grown men? Fear not. I’m here to tell the tale. I think we send our men on wild goose chases (or Easter egg hunts – I couldn’t help it. Sorry, not sorry) ALL. THE. TIME. Are you […]
Someone walked up to me the other day and did it again. Approached me in this particular manner. If I were to get a dollar for every time this happens, I would have quite the collection by now. Who knows what I might be able to buy. Seriously. It happens to me SO […]
We all have expectations. We’d lie if we said we didn’t. Whether at work, at home, in your personal life and development – if you are alive, you have expectations – of people, of things, of how life’s gonna turn out. Expectations Makeover – The Beginning of It All Now, there […]
It’s coming – Even though you can still smell the mashed potatoes and the turkey, the holidays are upon us. Ready or not. The question that nobody is asking is: How do you make sure that your marriage survives the days (or weeks in many cases) of family staying at your place? You know […]
The marriage therapist that I am, I walked into my office for the enth time. This one day, for one reason or another, it just hit me in a different way. And I couldn’t keep it to myself. Contrary to what you may see in so many other places around you. I […]
How do you know that your marriage is in trouble and you need help? There is a lot of writing about how you know your relationship needs the help of marriage coaching or therapy. Or how you know that your marriage is already beyond helping. Because your relationship has been on life-support for […]