Before you can have a great conversation with your spouse, you need to know what KIND of a conversation it is. That’s the start. Is it logistics? Are we making plans for a vacation? Are we talking about our kids’ behavior and our parenting roles in that (or lack of alignment with it)? […]
My husband Jon and I – we didn’t explicitly have an agreement about this. Or a huge discussion on the topic that I can remember. One that led to us signing a document of some sort at the end of that meeting. But – Without needing to say it out loud, it was […]
How long does it take? How long does it take for my marriage to get to that place that you talk about – the place where you create the relationship with your spouse that you no longer want to leave – not now, not later – not ever? I get asked that question more […]
Did you know? It matters who you hang out with. And not just in a professional sense, though also true – How does the saying go? “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” You know that one. It matters on a personal level also. For you […]
We rarely talk about this. But it needs to be talked about. Because, in your marriage as much as anywhere else in your life, your capacity to suck is what propels you forward (Or keeps you stuck in one place.) How do you mean? Great question – I would love to tell you. […]
What I hear – Both Stubborn – Your Story So, you tell me that you are both stubborn. It usually comes up right after you say that you are SO very different. (No need to go back to that – I already wrote about that here.) The very first time we talk on the […]
Oh, for SURE. You can ABSOLUTELY make a dent in your marriage if only one of you gets help. I wholeheartedly believe that. If only one of you works on the relationship. It only takes one in the couple to change the direction of where you are going — to change the dance, […]
Every so often, someone will say this thing which leaves me in utter shock. Worse even, they say it with an ever-so-slight hint of an apology. Apology! Let me explain. Utter Shock – The How & the When My first question, when clients schedule their call is always is some form […]
If you’ve been around a while, you know I love what I do. How much I see every day as a privilege, not to be taken lightly. People opening their hearts – That’s a big deal. Client Wins Here’s one of my all-time-most-favorite things. Hands down. Couples telling me about what […]
So, you tell me – The Thing YOU Say So, you tell me that you are SOOO DIFFERENT. That you are on the opposite sides of the spectrum and have no idea why you ended up together. That you don’t even like the same things. Or so it seems. And that the […]
