MARRIAGE Game-Changer: DO IT Here’s my rule of thumb for hard conversations in marriage. If you know you need to have it, the fact that it’s hard is not a reason to avoid it. Avoiding that conversation will always cost you more than having it—emotionally, relationally, and long-term. In the moment, […]
Want a Better Marriage? THIS Here’s a marriage hack you might not have heard before… Count your WINS in your marriage. While I was recently out of the country, my husband—who I left behind with the kids—sent me this quick update: “The kids are still alive, the house is still standing, […]
Spring Break Plans? Avoid This MISTAKE It is March 6th. What’s the plan for spring break? If you and your spouse have not started talking about it—YET—I encourage you to do so. Tonight, tomorrow—anytime NOW is good. Start the conversation NOW. Start the conversation before it’s too late. Like any other […]
Married Life Weekend Strategy – A Conversation For Your Marriage (WIN) Are you and your spouse – come Sunday night, Monday morning – saying to yourselves, “Ugh, not again. What a disaster of a weekend?” It came up in a session with a couple of mine AGAIN – so we need […]
STOP Saying THIS – It’s Hurting Your Marriage Does this resonate in your marriage? Imagine your 15-year-old comes and offers these words: What’s wrong with me acting like I’m 5 years old? You loved me then when I did that. I just like to do things like I did them then.” […]
The TRUTH Re: MARRIAGE Nobody Talks About This might be a little controversial, but I’m going to say it anyway. You want a marriage that you love, right? But here’s the truth: you don’t need for your marriage to be perfect to love it. Did you know that? Do you know […]
Why Don’t You Love ME Like THAT? She was literally heartbroken. I was having a conversation with a couple earlier today, and it reminded me of something that somebody shared with me a long time ago. When your spouse walks through the door, they go crazy with greeting the dogs, playing […]
Messed Up V Day Last Year? It’s Never TOO Early I’m running errands with our youngest tonight on Friday night. What are you doing on Friday night? But all I’m seeing and we went to Michael’s and – what’s this place called? Hobby Lobby. Everywhere Valentine’s Day stuff. I can’t, you […]
Scheduling Sex in Marriage? Why you Definitely SHOULD So many married couples ask me this question all the time. Scheduling intimacy. IS that what we have to resort to? Is scheduling intimacy? Putting sex on the calendar and using some sort of code word or phrase so that in case our […]
The REAL DEAL In Marriage Here’s the real deal. It turns out that sometimes, even when you do all the things the way that you’re supposed to, the way that I tell my couples to do them, it still doesn’t always work out the way that you think it should. […]
