On Vulnerability in Marriage – that’s what we are talking about today. I don’t know who needs to hear this but I JUST reminded a couple of this truth this morning. There’s a lot of talk about vulnerability. And intimacy. And how we all – supposedly – want that in our relationships. Including […]
I’m not gonna lie. I was kind of horrified. You know how sometimes you realize you’re doing something that you didn’t even realize you were doing? Well that’s exactly what happened to me. This was definitely one of those times. I wasn’t smiling then. What You Have to Know – First Thing’s […]
I’m calling this the ‘Here’s What Happens Here’ Edition THE BEFORE & AFTER of my Clients – The BEFORE PART This couple, somewhere in their fifties, married twenty plus years. Walked in, both of them saying they weren’t particularly fulfilled in their marriage. “We really just would like to be able […]
Sometimes, it’s hard to believe this stuff happens. I was doing the thing I always do – Drinking tea. Simple enough, right? As I’m about to put a fresh tea bag in, I realize I am not quite done so I lift the mug up to my face, and spill a bunch on […]
Having done this for so long – in my mind, everybody knows. But then I run into someone, this week it was this older couple who had absolutely no idea. And of course, I’m the one who gets to point this out to them. Because staying in the not knowing – in the […]
If I were to write a book titled the 10 Cardinal Sins of Marriage, chapter 1 would be titled: STOP. Calling. Each. Other. Names !!!!! For the love of the universe. Seriously, though. Stop the name calling. Some are the REALLY obvious ones. Those that rarely anyone would ever fight me on. […]
You tell me – You think that you need to do something Big. Something extravagant that will get you out of this hole that you are in with your spouse. That you need to find one big fix. One big thing. This is true for most of you – You don’t believe me […]
Challah, Chili and Your marriage. Let me venture to say – I bet you never tried. Tried what? – you say to yourself. Make Challah Bread and Chili. The same night of the week? Maybe. In the same bowl? Likely not. We all know that wouldn’t work. The bread would get beyond mushy […]
Before you can have a great conversation with your spouse, you need to know what KIND of a conversation it is. That’s the start. Is it logistics? Are we making plans for a vacation? Are we talking about our kids’ behavior and our parenting roles in that (or lack of alignment with it)? […]
We rarely talk about this. But it needs to be talked about. Because, in your marriage as much as anywhere else in your life, your capacity to suck is what propels you forward (Or keeps you stuck in one place.) How do you mean? Great question – I would love to tell you. […]
