Sometimes I remind THEM. My clients, that is. Sometimes THEY remind ME – OR they remind EACH OTHER in front of ME. It happened again two days ago. The intensity with which he said it: “I know – It’s supposed to be this way.” Though – And this is the tricky piece – […]
How to Recover Best – First, The Question “My husband said something hurtful to me, and I have a hard time with it. Sometimes I won’t think about it, other times it’s all I can think about. He has apologized and said that he didn’t mean it. I always tell him then […]
I don’t know how we didn’t notice the progress being done. One day, we came back from church, and it was all completed. It’s not like the birds decided to do it in the back of the house somewhere we never go. They built it right here, on top of a light, right […]
Turns out I have a co-conspirator at the Minnesota Department of Transportation. Who knew? As a driver, I have a bunch of habits that (sometimes) my kids laugh at – like talking to other drivers while I’m on the road. But nothing irks me more than when people don’t use blinkers. I’m fine […]
Best of May’s Marriage Advice – On HONESTY Let me ask you something. How real have you been with your spouse about what’s going on between you two? And I don’t mean- how many times you said a thing or two, or much how much of the neighborhood heard about it also- […]
Even when, or ESPECIALLY when… Your husband, your wife approaches you with a request, you have GOT to remember this one thing. That’s ALL that it is. A request. YOU (and I) get to decide what to do with it. And this isn’t me saying – don’t listen to your spouse. Don’t take […]
How to RECOVER in your marriage from a relational micro-mishap at RAPID SPEED Some of you call them hiccups. Yes, those. Say these words out loud: “Hey, I don’t want to hold this over my head (or yours) all day long, can I just run it by you real quick? Assuming that your […]
On Vulnerability in Marriage – that’s what we are talking about today. I don’t know who needs to hear this but I JUST reminded a couple of this truth this morning. There’s a lot of talk about vulnerability. And intimacy. And how we all – supposedly – want that in our relationships. Including […]
I’m not gonna lie. I was kind of horrified. You know how sometimes you realize you’re doing something that you didn’t even realize you were doing? Well that’s exactly what happened to me. This was definitely one of those times. I wasn’t smiling then. What You Have to Know – First Thing’s […]
I’m calling this the ‘Here’s What Happens Here’ Edition THE BEFORE & AFTER of my Clients – The BEFORE PART This couple, somewhere in their fifties, married twenty plus years. Walked in, both of them saying they weren’t particularly fulfilled in their marriage. “We really just would like to be able […]
