Backing out of our driveway, leaving for work mid morning, I notice the neighbor standing out in front of his garage, waving at me. I wave back, smile – we are friendly that way where I live- and say hi . We’ve mastered the art of lip-reading with this one. As I am continuing to […]
Let me get right to it. We get married because we want someone to speak to those parts of us that feel weak, shattered, broken. We get married because we are looking for someone to take us in and do the repair. Because secretly, we want the other person to take care of […]
Let’s see if you can relate. Sitting there, at brunch, we were talking all things married life as we were preparing for the big day. Ladies – some family, some friends from church, gathered together to get me ready for what’s to come. All of them at least twenty years my senior. Some, […]
Someone walked up to me the other day and did it again. Approached me in this particular manner. If I were to get a dollar for every time this happens, I would have quite the collection by now. Who knows what I might be able to buy. Seriously. It happens to me SO […]
The marriage therapist that I am, I walked into my office for the enth time. This one day, for one reason or another, it just hit me in a different way. And I couldn’t keep it to myself. Contrary to what you may see in so many other places around you. I […]
And more importantly, how do I find a therapist who is right for me/for us? That’s the underlying question. And we’ll get to that in a second. Finding a therapist is like buying a plant You are looking at this image, wondering what a potted plant has to do with finding […]
Why I Love What I Get to Do Every Day – THE PHONE CALL I was on the phone with my mom. She had just casually asked me how work was going, only to offer: “It must be really rewarding to know that because a couple came to see you, they are not going […]
It’s Confession Time, Said the Married Couples Coach Again Last week, I don’t even know what night it was, I spent the evening binge-watching (I know, please don’t judge) a whole bunch of Ted Talks dealing with relationships or therapy in one way or another. And I came out really finding a few […]
Happy Valentine’s Day, Happy Shmalentine’s day. I don’t like Valentine’s day. Can you tell? If you are surprised, or appalled even, that’s alright. I don’t mind. Just hear me out. There is a reason I say that – I promise. (And if you are reading this, saying to yourself, ‘ooo, I don’t either’ […]
You might have seen one of these. On the front of a hallmark card or maybe in someone’s News feed, a tribute of sorts to their husband or their we(to be) or one on their birthday, anniversary or just a day like every other. You know what I am talking about, right? It’s […]
