You can’t FIX What You AVOID Sometimes couples will come in and say, “We want to have better conflict resolution.” But they haven’t had a real conversation since that emotional affair a few years back. Here’s the thing: you can’t work on the symptom and not look at the source. Not […]
Don’t Waste Those Precious Nights It’s Friday night. Are you too struggling, like so many of us married folk struggle, with looking through Netflix and just not being able to find what you want to watch? If you’re looking for meaningful ways to connect, click the video. Your Marriage – THIS […]
Marriage Bomb: THIS Changes EVERYTHING I had a couple sitting across from me. The standoff mode—you know the one. Neither one wanted to go first, to soften. So I said, “Look, one of you has to go first. Why not you?” Going first doesn’t mean that you were wrong. It doesn’t […]
Accidentally Building WALLS in Marriage? Despite what you heard growing up, you’re not too much. You are not a burden. You just have needs, just like everyone else walking on this planet. So say what you need. Say it clearly. Say it kindly. But don’t keep it inside. Why? Because silence […]
EXHAUSTED? Best Marriage Hack How do you do marriage stacking when we’re tired as all get out? Some days, I’m too tired to talk, let alone connect. But that’s where gentle stacking comes in. You don’t have to perform. You don’t have to have deep talks every single night of the […]
Want a STRONG Marriage? THIS That’s what I’m calling habit number nine for a strong relationship: reach out. Just because. Not because it’s date night. And not because it’s y’all’s anniversary. Not because it’s somebody’s birthday. This is when you just reach out just because. You send the text. And you give […]
MARRIAGE Game-Changer: DO IT Here’s my rule of thumb for hard conversations in marriage. If you know you need to have it, the fact that it’s hard is not a reason to avoid it. Avoiding that conversation will always cost you more than having it—emotionally, relationally, and long-term. In the moment, […]
In Marriage – Doing Nothing WRONG I went on a walk today. As I’m getting ready to walk outside, I’m standing in the entryway for a good 20–30 seconds just going, “What am I forgetting? What am I forgetting?” I’m touching my pockets, trying to figure out if I have my […]
Want a Better Marriage? THIS Here’s a marriage hack you might not have heard before… Count your WINS in your marriage. While I was recently out of the country, my husband—who I left behind with the kids—sent me this quick update: “The kids are still alive, the house is still standing, […]
THIS Is How You Know He’s a Keeper Yet another proof that it’s the small stuff, man. A couple of days ago, he made banana bread again. I don’t know if this happens in your family, but we go through seasons—cooking something all the time—like, once or twice a week—and then […]
