How to Recover Best – First, The Question “My husband said something hurtful to me, and I have a hard time with it. Sometimes I won’t think about it, other times it’s all I can think about. He has apologized and said that he didn’t mean it. I always tell him then […]
These are the three rules that I’d advise you adopt in your marriage, whether you work with me or not. They are non-negotiable in my office – Once I start working with my couples, we discuss these right away. Session one, literally. If you’d rather watch a video where I talk about […]
Turns out I have a co-conspirator at the Minnesota Department of Transportation. Who knew? As a driver, I have a bunch of habits that (sometimes) my kids laugh at – like talking to other drivers while I’m on the road. But nothing irks me more than when people don’t use blinkers. I’m fine […]
Best of May’s Marriage Advice – On HONESTY Let me ask you something. How real have you been with your spouse about what’s going on between you two? And I don’t mean- how many times you said a thing or two, or much how much of the neighborhood heard about it also- […]
How to RECOVER in your marriage from a relational micro-mishap at RAPID SPEED Some of you call them hiccups. Yes, those. Say these words out loud: “Hey, I don’t want to hold this over my head (or yours) all day long, can I just run it by you real quick? Assuming that your […]
This is a letter from me to you, with love. There’s no denying it. The numbers don’t lie. Picture this: It’s Friday night & you are at a dinner party. Six couples total present. Hear this. Every other couple in the room will end up in divorce. Every other couple around the table […]
Having done this for so long – in my mind, everybody knows. But then I run into someone, this week it was this older couple who had absolutely no idea. And of course, I’m the one who gets to point this out to them. Because staying in the not knowing – in the […]
If I were to write a book titled the 10 Cardinal Sins of Marriage, chapter 1 would be titled: STOP. Calling. Each. Other. Names !!!!! For the love of the universe. Seriously, though. Stop the name calling. Some are the REALLY obvious ones. Those that rarely anyone would ever fight me on. […]
Challah, Chili and Your marriage. Let me venture to say – I bet you never tried. Tried what? – you say to yourself. Make Challah Bread and Chili. The same night of the week? Maybe. In the same bowl? Likely not. We all know that wouldn’t work. The bread would get beyond mushy […]
Language Matters. [And I’m not just saying that just because I was a linguist in my previous life = always a linguist at heart. We are talking about a sneaky little shift, afterall.] HOW you say things to one another in your marriage matters. “That’s obvious, Danka, what’s new?” Hang tight. This one though […]
