Turns out I have a co-conspirator at the Minnesota Department of Transportation. Who knew? As a driver, I have a bunch of habits that (sometimes) my kids laugh at – like talking to other drivers while I’m on the road. But nothing irks me more than when people don’t use blinkers. I’m fine […]
Best of May’s Marriage Advice – On HONESTY Let me ask you something. How real have you been with your spouse about what’s going on between you two? And I don’t mean- how many times you said a thing or two, or much how much of the neighborhood heard about it also- […]
Feeling Oh-So-Grateful (Even If It’s NOT Thanksgiving) Get this – The year was 1974!!!!! I am putting al those exclamation points after because this is still incredibly MINDBLOWING to me. This is what we’re talking about today because someone just reminded me of this date again – Thank you, Serena Hicks, Dear.) […]
The Question You Ask and Why I don’t Answer So, you ask me this one question. Pretty frequently. And I don’t answer it – On purpose. What question is that? What do you charge? Or some version thereof. How much does it cost to work with you? How much are your packages? […]
Even when, or ESPECIALLY when… Your husband, your wife approaches you with a request, you have GOT to remember this one thing. That’s ALL that it is. A request. YOU (and I) get to decide what to do with it. And this isn’t me saying – don’t listen to your spouse. Don’t take […]
How to RECOVER in your marriage from a relational micro-mishap at RAPID SPEED Some of you call them hiccups. Yes, those. Say these words out loud: “Hey, I don’t want to hold this over my head (or yours) all day long, can I just run it by you real quick? Assuming that your […]
You don’t NEED to hire me. Here’s why you might WANT to. Mary sent me this months after we’ve initially spoken on the phone. (And Mary isn’t the only one who’s sent such an email.) “We didn’t prioritize this. However, the question you asked me when we first spoke continues to stick out […]
There is a difference between fighting to surrender, and fighting to win. Reality Check — Not all of my couples make it. Sometimes they come, when they should have come months or years ago. Other times, they come because they want to be able to say – “We have done it ALL. There […]
On Vulnerability in Marriage – that’s what we are talking about today. I don’t know who needs to hear this but I JUST reminded a couple of this truth this morning. There’s a lot of talk about vulnerability. And intimacy. And how we all – supposedly – want that in our relationships. Including […]
This will happen in your marriage when you work with me. You will be able to talk about money & sex in a way you never knew before. Being open about where you are now. Being honest and open about where you have been (sometimes it is useful to look at what us […]
