The Marriage Trap Here’s an uncomfortable truth for your marriage. “I can’t” keeps you stuck in your comfort zone. We love to say “I can’t” when we’re overwhelmed. When we’re tired. Or even a little bit lazy. But the truth is, you can. The question that you really want to ask […]
Marriage Needs More Than Love You’ve heard of the five love languages, I bet— even if you don’t know what they are exactly and couldn’t tell me what yours is or what your spouse’s are. But you’ve heard that’s a thing with married couples, or couples in general even. Yeah. But […]
Does Your Partner Win? Are you accidentally choosing your pattern over your partner? Here’s the thing. You’re not wrong for wanting your routine, your friends, your bike rides. Nothing is wrong with any of that. But if your spouse feels ignored, it’s worth paying attention to. Forget what’s easy and choose […]
Lose the Marriage Junk Food How would you like to drop the emotional weight that’s dragging your marriage down? Here’s how to do that. Look for the obvious indulgences. Which one is it for you? Is it the nightly scroll on Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok instead of finding your husband or […]
Missing the POINT Let’s flip the script on Father’s Day. Because for most people, most couples, even, they’re doing it all wrong. And no, I’m not saying that you need to spend a lot of money or go big. I’m saying that there’s a difference between a day with a gift […]
Silence That’s DEADLY I had a couple in here last week who said, “We don’t really fight. We just stopped talking for a while.” I even had someone say, “I don’t remember what we used to talk about for so long all those years ago when we would spend whole days […]
Better Marriages Everywhere If you’re ever finding yourself tempted to text your spouse during the day, did you ever regret it afterward? Here’s the rubric that I go by. One that I’ve used myself in my 18-year-old marriage. Yes, our marriage is an adult now. And one that I’ve used with […]
You can’t FIX What You AVOID Sometimes couples will come in and say, “We want to have better conflict resolution.” But they haven’t had a real conversation since that emotional affair a few years back. Here’s the thing: you can’t work on the symptom and not look at the source. Not […]
Don’t Waste Those Precious Nights It’s Friday night. Are you too struggling, like so many of us married folk struggle, with looking through Netflix and just not being able to find what you want to watch? If you’re looking for meaningful ways to connect, click the video. Your Marriage – THIS […]
Marriage Bomb: THIS Changes EVERYTHING I had a couple sitting across from me. The standoff mode—you know the one. Neither one wanted to go first, to soften. So I said, “Look, one of you has to go first. Why not you?” Going first doesn’t mean that you were wrong. It doesn’t […]
