I’m not gonna lie. I was kind of horrified. You know how sometimes you realize you’re doing something that you didn’t even realize you were doing? Well that’s exactly what happened to me. This was definitely one of those times. I wasn’t smiling then. What You Have to Know – First Thing’s […]
I’m calling this the ‘Here’s What Happens Here’ Edition THE BEFORE & AFTER of my Clients – The BEFORE PART This couple, somewhere in their fifties, married twenty plus years. Walked in, both of them saying they weren’t particularly fulfilled in their marriage. “We really just would like to be able […]
Sometimes, it’s hard to believe this stuff happens. I was doing the thing I always do – Drinking tea. Simple enough, right? As I’m about to put a fresh tea bag in, I realize I am not quite done so I lift the mug up to my face, and spill a bunch on […]
Having done this for so long – in my mind, everybody knows. But then I run into someone, this week it was this older couple who had absolutely no idea. And of course, I’m the one who gets to point this out to them. Because staying in the not knowing – in the […]
So, you tell me you don’t have one. One hour each week to come in to meet with me for a session. Seriously. I do want to question that — For your sake, not mine. [Yes, I see my couples once a week.] Listen to what you are saying. Just for a second. […]
If I were to write a book titled the 10 Cardinal Sins of Marriage, chapter 1 would be titled: STOP. Calling. Each. Other. Names !!!!! For the love of the universe. Seriously, though. Stop the name calling. Some are the REALLY obvious ones. Those that rarely anyone would ever fight me on. […]
You tell me – You think that you need to do something Big. Something extravagant that will get you out of this hole that you are in with your spouse. That you need to find one big fix. One big thing. This is true for most of you – You don’t believe me […]
Why I don’t do Square gift cards in my business? Certainly not for lack of inquiries. I have had so many couples over the years, older couples with older kids, ask me about this. Lately, it’s even been the other way around. Younger couples asking on their parents’ behalf. (How cool is that, […]
Challah, Chili and Your marriage. Let me venture to say – I bet you never tried. Tried what? – you say to yourself. Make Challah Bread and Chili. The same night of the week? Maybe. In the same bowl? Likely not. We all know that wouldn’t work. The bread would get beyond mushy […]
Language Matters. [And I’m not just saying that just because I was a linguist in my previous life = always a linguist at heart. We are talking about a sneaky little shift, afterall.] HOW you say things to one another in your marriage matters. “That’s obvious, Danka, what’s new?” Hang tight. This one though […]
