When Your Spouse Messes Up – Half the Battle is WON with This One of the powerful things that you can do when your spouse has just messed something up—right, they’re like, screwed up in some way—is to take a moment. The moment that you can look at that and remind […]
The Powerhouse Kind of Dates for Your Marriage If you and your spouse are sitting there saying, “We have no time, we don’t have the money, we don’t have family in town, we don’t have babysitters, or the ones that we do know we don’t trust, we don’t know where we […]
Listening Well in Your Marriage We are taught how to speak up. To a degree, I would argue. I don’t think we do it justice – BUT – at least it’s within our awareness. How to present, how to talk, how to share our opinions – with our spouse or otherwise. What […]
You Only Need ONE Thing You don’t need a hundred different things to start. To start making your marriage better—that is, your marriage—your spouse doesn’t require that. You only need one. Go out there. Find one thing that you appreciate about your spouse. Find one thing that you love about your husband […]
The Most Underrated Skill in Marriage You not telling your spouse how something landed with you isn’t helping anybody. You keeping the feedback to yourself, as if it were some kind of national secret, isn’t doing either one of you any good. When she knows that the backrub got all of […]
Your Money Conversations, Failed (No More) The fact that you don’t nail it at your first try is normal. Most people don’t. Most couples have to go about it a couple different times to get the conversation, let’s just say, about money (since that’s what we will be talking about during the month […]
The one exception, as it relates to money spent in your marriage where you BOTH don’t need to be aligned – Where you don’t have to consult your spouse on money, and your spouse doesn’t have to consult you – It’s when it happens within the confines of FUN MONEY. Sounds fun, right? […]
Let me start with this: True Story I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or death struggle going on […]
What I realized when our daughter asked me one simple question: “Why are you cleaning SO MUCH??” So she asked me this question as I am frantically trying to clean the bathroom, the hardwood floors, and carpeted areas of the home, all prior to some family coming over. People that have never seen our […]
Sometimes I remind THEM. My clients, that is. Sometimes THEY remind ME – OR they remind EACH OTHER in front of ME. It happened again two days ago. The intensity with which he said it: “I know – It’s supposed to be this way.” Though – And this is the tricky piece – […]
